I had a sharply divided reading experience with The Conflict Resolution Toolbox. On one hand, it's really useful. When I went through mediation training, I was introduced to a couple models of conflict. Author Gary T. Furlong describes eight different models of conflict resolution. He applies each one to the same case study, so I could see how the models align and how they differ, and how different models do or don't work in specific situations. His writing is clear, and examples and practical suggestions abound.
And...I had a lot of trouble with the concepts in the book. Furlong's experience and mine differ sharply, and while he's markedly more experienced in conflict resolution (he's a professional, I dabble), I have to give my experience some weight. Furlong discusses conceptual biases, and to be frank, I think these are at play here--not just his own biases, but those of the field. Examples of this come when Furlong is talking about the Interests/Rights/Power model. He writes of interest-based processes as win-win. They certainly can be. However, if one of my major interests is a fast solution, so I can get on with things, the more time we spend coming up with creative solutions, the lower my satisfaction. When he discusses rights-based processes, he classifies the outcomes produced as win-lose. Again, the results certainly can be--but there's a whole lot of win-win in the clarity of knowing who has what right. In indicating that these tend to be "adversarial," he seems to ignore simple desires for clarity. (Where does this property line run? Ah, got it. Now we can go on.) He also focuses on the satisfaction of the parties immediately involved. That's certainly a primary focus, but what about the larger community /organization? At times knowing that person X has a certain right can be a tremendous win for the larger community. I also think that the loss in these cases can be gentled through processes aimed at reintegrating both winners and losers into a larger frame.
I should emphasize, however, that this book is primarily a book of practice, not concepts, and so my objections do not take away from its very real value. Mr. Furlong's provided a valuable tool for all mediators, negotiators, and counselors, as well as anyone who might want to grab a tool or two to ease conflicts in their personal lives.
Greg