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The Bully at Work: What You Can Do... [Paperback]

Gary Namie , Ruth F. Namie
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  • Paperback: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc (1 May 2000)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1570715343
  • ISBN-13: 978-1570715341
  • Product Dimensions: 22.9 x 19 x 3 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 71,307 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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This book exposes the strategies employed by bullies in the workplace, how to recognise them, and how to deal with them.

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Bullying at work is the repeated, malicious, health-endangering mistreatment of one employee (the Target) by one or more employees (the bully, bullies). Read the first page
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75 of 76 people found the following review helpful
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I suffered an incident of bullying at work for the past two years. In my case, I got things successfully resolved when one bully left of his own accord, and the other bully was stopped by senior management (I was fired, and senior management rehired me when I went over the bully's head). According to this book, this happens in only seven percent of cases. I feel very lucky. In my case, the only piece of the puzzle that was missing was WHY this happened to me, and this book really helped clarify that for me and bring the whole incident to closure.
I just found this book and read it, and if I had had it during the time all of this was going on, it would have helped me immensely. I experienced all of the behaviors described in this book, and I think the reasons given for the behavior are right on the mark. When my e-mail friends suggested the same reasons (before I read this book), I found them so far-fetched (such as perhaps I was making the bullies look bad through my competence-I said to myself, "They are professional people; surely they are self-confident about their own work.")
This book looks at reasons for bullying, and who become targets for bullying behavior (how and why those targets are chosen). It discusses bullying in other European countries, as well as South Africa, and what progress legally has been made against passing laws against bullying in the workplace. These laws are compared with the legal progress/standing of the target in the United States. The book discusses health ramifications on the target, and all possible actions that can and should or should not be taken personally, and in the workplace.
If I had read this book MUCH sooner (such as when the bullying FIRST started), it would have helped me emotionally.
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1.0 out of 5 stars nothing new in here 14 Jun 2013
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I find this book a bit annoying -the style seems to be focused on what is fair rather than what is the reality of life and it just gets me boiled up reading it (whats the point in that!). we all know being bullied isn't 'right' but it happens. tough. I would recommend highly another book 'be bulletproof' which is a lot better in tersm of providing real solutions.its given me several quite effective ideas (so far) to use when dealing/relating to my boss who is a bit of a nightmare, to say the least.

it took ages to arrive and isn't in very good nic either with writing all over it well- obviously someone else had read it and they seemed to have found it useful at least! sadly i won't be keeping it. i don't think there is anything in it that you can't find for free via a basic online search. basically a waste of money sorry!
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5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book. 15 April 2014
By Magsw
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This book was very interesting reading. Made lots,of points that I have not considered before. Lots of things that having now considered them would put in place.
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5.0 out of 5 stars This book opened my eyes! 7 Dec 2013
By Greg M
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There are 2 very different reviews for this book. So I was not sure. I also got other book with the reviewer with low rating recommended. I returned the recommended book but I loved this book.
This book is from US auther so probably law etc is different but what I liked about this book is Chapter 15 Escape the Trap of Self Blame. This is very important chapter to read, if you are starting to believe what the bullies are talking about. I also found Chapter 11 Establish and Protect Boundaries very important to read, since my managers are bullying me by asking invasive questions routinely. My work place is a little complecarted and difficult place, since they are trying to be like family (pretending), but actually, it is just a work place and bully and punish people as the manager likes and dislikes. So boundaries are very important things to remind myself of.
I think this book is very important book if you feel alone and suffering bully at work.
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86 of 88 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The Bully at Work: What You Can Do To Stop the Hurt and Reclaim Your Dignity On the job 23 Mar 2010
By Delar Kour Singh - Published on Amazon.com
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The Bully at Work: What You Can Do To Stop the Hurt and Reclaim Your Dignity On the job

If you want to learn about the phenomenon of workplace bullying which has become an epidemic in recent years, get this book right now. Bullying at work involves pre-mediated, repeated, malicious mistreatment of one employee by one or more employees. This mistreatment is a sort of psychological violence. Its purpose is to steal all that the target has and the bully envies. It prevents the target from getting his/her work done. The workplace bully abuses power, causes misery to his/her target and endeavors hard to steal the target's self-confidence, perceptions of self- competence and goodness. Gradually, bully involves others in this hateful campaign against the target. Bullies use many tactics such as blaming for errors, unreasonable work demands, insults and putdowns, exclusion, stealing credit, threatening job loss, criticism of ability, and discounting of accomplishments. The book discusses types of bullies. It also includes discussion on who bullies choose for targets. Targets are genuinely bright, creative, dedicated, and self-assured individuals. Since they pose a threat to the bully, the bully works hard to undermine them. As a result of bullying, the targets might experience fear, shame, humiliation, and loss of dignity and it can impact their physical health, mental health and productivity at work.
I recommend this book to every individual in American workforce. It is an eye opener. I also recommend that you visit Namie website, Workplace Bullying and Trauma Institute [bullyinginstitute. Org]. I really am grateful to Gary Namie and Ruth Namie for witting such a masterpiece on the topic of workplace bullying. It can save lives and careers.
99 of 105 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars You're NOT Crazy---This Book Tells You What To DO 21 Jun 2003
By Imperial Topaz - Published on Amazon.com
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I suffered an incident of bullying at work for the past two years. In my case, I got things successfully resolved when one bully left of his own accord, and the other bully was stopped by senior management (I was fired, and senior management rehired me when I went over the bully's head). According to this book, this happens in only seven percent of cases. I feel very lucky. In my case, the only piece of the puzzle that was missing was WHY this happened to me, and this book really helped clarify that for me and bring the whole incident to closure.
I just found this book and read it, and if I had had it during the time all of this was going on, it would have helped me immensely. I experienced all of the behaviors described in this book, and I think the reasons given for the behavior are right on the mark. When my e-mail friends suggested the same reasons (before I read this book), I found them so far-fetched (such as perhaps I was making the bullies look bad through my competence-I said to myself, "They are professional people; surely they are self-confident about their own work.")
This book looks at reasons for bullying, and who become targets for bullying behavior (how and why those targets are chosen). It discusses bullying in other European countries, as well as South Africa, and what progress legally has been made against passing laws against bullying in the workplace. These laws are compared with the legal progress/standing of the target in the United States. The book discusses health ramifications on the target, and all possible actions that can and should or should not be taken personally, and in the workplace.
If I had read this book MUCH sooner (such as when the bullying FIRST started), it would have helped me emotionally. I would have realized MUCH sooner what was happening, and known that I wasn't crazy. I could have fought back sooner, and would have known how, and which strategies to use. I also would have kept detailed records of each bullying incident, and I would have gotten witnesses' statements. In short, if you are even questioning yourself about whether bullying is happening to you, or not, BUY THIS BOOK.
64 of 68 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars As oasis of understanding and comfort 17 Oct 2001
By A Customer - Published on Amazon.com
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This book has comforted me more than I can say, and I just wish I'd had it available in the early 90s when I was going through three years of relentless workplace bullying. Even the severe illness and death of one of my close family members did not deter the manager and co-workers who harassed, ridiculed, and humiliated me; they were completely heartless. Because their torment was neither sexual, ethnic, nor religious in nature, I felt I had no recourse but to resign.

At the time of my resignation, I was taking sleeping medication and antidepressants, and being treated for chronic stomach problems. Within a month of leaving, I was off all prescription drugs. Although I had nightmares four or five nights a week for more than a year, and was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress syndrome, at least I was finally free from the daily abuse. I thank God that I got out before I suffered irreparable harm; my research tells me that some people are no longer able to work after this kind of experience.

My former manager is still at the company, doubtless causing untold grief for another stressed-out employee who is struggling desperately to please her. Tyrants like her must always have a scapegoat; trampling upon other people is what makes them feel superior.

This book reassured me that I am not alone, and that the abuse wasn't my fault. Thank God for the Namies. They have performed an invaluable public service by writing "The Bully at Work." Kudos to them!

I also highly recommend a related book, "Mobbing: Emotional Abuse in the American Workplace" by Noa Davenport, which is available here on Amazon. If you've read this far, you are probably seeking help. Good luck to you, my friend.
25 of 25 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Terrific overview on harrassment behavior 17 Mar 2007
By Wayne Klein - Published on Amazon.com
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THE BULLY AT WORK looks at the latest issue in the work place--allowing a manager (or in some cases a co-worker)to demean you as a method of control and keeping you from seeing your value as an employee of a company. This practice occurs within many companies. Some don't offically authorize it but sanction it by ignoring it or ignoring the problem(bringing it up to HR only indicates to those within that department that they are not doing their job in many cases making them defensive). Many managers get away with it in large corporations because the people they work for never are on the receiving end of these mind games (and make no mistake they are mind games). Large corporations whether they be a large company like Novartis, Kaiser, IBM and smaller organizations often lose good people by allowing what amounts to harrassment to occur.

The authors outline the steps you need to take to derail the psychological manipulation, restore your self confidence and sense of self worth. In some cases, that means leaving a company. Often these companies ignore the signs (high turnover within an office or district, complaints mentioned in exit interviews)because of concern over lawsuits. This enables the disfunctional person behind these humilitations to continue to their assault on employees and make no mistake it is an assault comprising a form of psychological rape.

The authors identify the various personalty types, types of abuse and what makes someone a Target. They also make suggestions to disable employees from becoming Targets and discouraging the manager/supervisor from continuing their onslaught. Just because a manager discontinues harrassing one employee doesn't mean they won't continue doing this because according to the authors it springs from a deep seated insecurity and bullying as children by their parents or other children. Sadly, as the authors point out the Targets of bullying allow the bully to act out on their aggression and usually the bully has no insight into their actions or unethical behavior.

You're not imagining it. This book will help you act and deal with these psychologically disturbed individuals wrongly put into positons of power.
25 of 25 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars These Bully Busters helped me restore my life 10 Dec 2004
By E. Bernstein - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Paperback
I did not realize that I had been the target of a particularly skillful bully until I spotted this excellent book at the local bookstore. A man who could not tolerate a challenge to fix something that he had broken ran me out of a neighborhood. This guy and his wife used every tactic in this book to make my life miserable.

I was blessed to find this book in the middle of this tumultuous event. I was then able to put the conflict into the perspective of a bully-target dynamic, and I could then take the steps to transform this nightmare into a profound journey to re-establish my strength and goodness.

Bullies are toxic beings and cause havoc to decent people. The Namies document how bullying and Machiavellian competitive tactics cost the average workplace tens in not hundreds of thousands of dollars in lost productivity, sick leave, legal fees, job loss, and the hiring and retraining of revolving door personnel.

The Namies state that one in six people lose jobs as a result of workplace violence. If this were a disease this would be considered an epidemic, and the National Institute of Health would fully fund research to wipe out this phenomenon. Since I have become aware of the prevalence of bullying, nearly everyone I have talked with knows someone who has suffered from this industrial malady.

If you find that you are a "typical" target, a person who loves their independence, prefers cooperation and productive problem-solving, is very skilled at what they do and an ethical whistle blower this book is essential to insure that you are protected from a Jekyl and Hyde or Screaming Mimi.

Whistle blowers are the salt of the earth; each and every employee or manager (employees can bully also) should consider this book a must read.
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