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The Book of No: 250 Ways to Say It -- And Mean It and Stop People-pleasing Forever: 200 Ways to Say It -- and Mean It and Stop People-pleasing Forever [Paperback]

Susan Newman
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Book Description

1 Jan 2006

Overscheduled? Overworked? Overburdened?
Get the "No-How" you need to take back your life

Refusing someone is rarely easy and is often downright uncomfortable. But constantly giving in creates anxiety, anger, added stress, regret, and feelings of powerlessness.

Bestselling author Dr. Susan Newman helps you break your debilitating "yes" habit with her simple techniques, scenarios, and insights. Tackling family, friends, coworkers, and even pushy salespeople, The Book of No helps you

  • Recognize when someone is manipulating you into saying "yes"
  • Avoid being socially overcommitted, and put an end to feelings of resentment, anger, and guilt
  • Get more enjoyment out of the time you make for friends and family
  • Establish boundaries and be more focused and effective at work

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  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: McGraw-Hill Contemporary (1 Jan 2006)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0071460780
  • ISBN-13: 978-0071460781
  • Product Dimensions: 20.9 x 20 x 1.4 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 452,220 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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"This book will free you. It is one of the most liberating, empowering, and practical topics I've seen . . . and Susan Newman does a masterful job bringing it home."
--Joseph Grenny, New York Times bestselling coauthor of Crucial Confrontations

"The skill of saying 'no' is essential for a life of freedom and dignity. Dr. Newman's book, through a series of carefully analyzed examples, teaches that skill."
-- Herbert Fensterheim, Ph.D., coauthor of Don't Say Yes When You Want to Say No

Overscheduled? Overworked? Overburdened?
Get the "No-How" you need to take back your life

Refusing someone is rarely easy and is often downright uncomfortable. But constantly giving in creates anxiety, anger, added stress, regret, and feelings of powerlessness.

Bestselling author Dr. Susan Newman helps you break your debilitating "yes" habit with her simple techniques, scenarios, and insights. Tackling family, friends, coworkers, and even pushy salespeople, The Book of No helps you

  • Recognize when someone is manipulating you into saying "yes"
  • Avoid being socially overcommitted, and put an end to feelings of resentment, anger, and guilt
  • Get more enjoyment out of the time you make for friends and family
  • Establish boundaries and be more focused and effective at work

About the Author

Susan Newman, Ph.D., a social psychologist, is the author of thirteen relationship and parenting books, including Parenting an Only Child, Little Things Long Remembered, and Nobody's Baby Now. Visit Dr. Newman's website at www.thebookofno.com.


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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Just what I needed! 29 Dec 2012
Format:Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase
I love this book! It is just what some of us need to kick stark our assertiveness and stop feeling guilty for catering to our own needs. I am a natural pushover but this book has motivated me to find my 'NO' and not be afraid to use it when necessary. The situations are a bit Americanised and do assume the reader is rather amazing, however the underlying message can still be understood. Thanks! Very motivational!
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2.0 out of 5 stars Disappointing 26 July 2014
By SARAH
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I thought that this book was very tedious to read, the scenarios are all very similiar and after a while the responses are the same. When I purchased this book I thought it would have a more psychological side to it and be interesting as well as motivating.

Unfortunately i didn't gain anything from this book.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book Loved IT!!! 13 Feb 2014
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Practical ways to say NO, had it for a couple of weeks has already got me out of a few very time consuming favours absoloytely brilliant of you have a hard time saying no when a favour is asked.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Great resource for treading the NO waters 3 Aug 2006
By Amazon Customer - Published on Amazon.com
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We all know someone who, like Oklahoma's Ado Annie, just "cain't say no." These folks accept every project. Every volunteer job. While everyone around them loves and appreciates them (or not), they're often tired and do little for themselves. Some people who fall into this group may not even realize they're on automated mode when agreeing to help.

The Book of No contains 250 scenarios and how to handle them so that you say no. Before the entering the bulk of the book that contains the scenarios, Newman covers five basics to get you started with this No business as well as a 16-point No Credo to remind you that you have the right to say no. Saying no is a learned skill, and the scenarios can help the yes-person develop the courage to say no.

Each scenario poses a question or statement followed by three parts:

* What's going on here? - Explains the situation and possible motives.

* Response - How to respond so the answer ends in a No.</li>

* Alert - A warning to help you the next time you get into the situation or contains insight so you better understand what's going on.

A person who has the courage to say no may feel terrible and guilty afterward. The scenarios don't simply advise saying no, but instead provide honest and guilt-free responses. For example, someone at work asks if you're available for lunch on certain days. The response, "Thanks for including me, but I can't squeeze another thing into my crammed schedule this week."

The scenarios are grouped into four areas for quick referencing: friends, family, work, and difficult people, which include situations with sales people and those who provide services.

The book concludes with a bulleted list of key lessons to provide reinforcement to keep you focused on the road to accomplishing more of what you want and less of what others want. The brief introduction and conclusion with the well-sorted scenarios in between make the book a great tool for people who need support in their journey to say no.
7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Saying Yes Too Often Can Get You In Trouble 25 Jan 2006
By Elaine - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Paperback
I just read all the other reviews and I think I have to say "NO" to the reviewer who said this book is gender biased. My husband read this book before me and thought it was very well organized with a creative format and helpful to him (and he does not have a serious problem with saying NO). I do have the problem of knowing how & when to say NO and mean it. This book covers interactions with family members, friends, co workers and bosses and applies to men as well as women.

As a result of reading this book, I have started to become much more focused on how I need to spend my time and energy, so saying I am sorry, I am overwhelmed with commitments right now has gotten much easier.

Thanks to Dr. Newman, I am much less stressed about saying NO, which gives me the time to work on things that are improtant to me and my family.
7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A SURVIVAL GUIDE FOR LIFE 31 Dec 2005
By The Constant Reader - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Paperback
This book gives us, the readers, TOOLS to take control of our lives and to start saying NO when we are being taken advantage of, manipulated or just plain find ourselves overextended in today's hectic lifestyle. This book makes the reader aware of how often we say YES when we should say NO...and then end up resenting the very people who we were trying to help. The book includes insightful guilt-free ways of dealing with friends, family and employers/supervisors who abuse a worker's drive for high performance. This book is for everyone who cares about making other people happy. If you are so evolved that you don't need to learn how to stand up for yourself and let your feelings be known in an appropriate manner, then you know someone who could use this very valuable and instructive read! Buy this book- for yourself or as a gift!
6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars YES! for THE BOOK OF NO! 29 Nov 2005
By Pamela C. Swallow - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Paperback
Dr. Newman's book is terrific!

Boy oh boy, do I ever wish I'd read it before I got snagged into doing a job that I never wanted to do. I was a wuss to have been so coerced. And now I feel "taken" and irked. Had I read THE BOOK OF NO a week ago, I would have known how to avoid such a situation. Henceforth, I shall be stronger. This is a book for all those who say "yes" too easily.
5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Practical , well written and relevant for many 17 Mar 2006
By Ruth Hague - Published on Amazon.com
Format:Paperback
Unlike many other "how to" books, I found this book well written and useful. You don't have to wade through too much verbose and overblown prose. The book gets right to the point and you can find specific answers to many everyday situations. I actaully plan to buy this for several of my friends, , who like myself, complain about taking on too much but never get to the point where we can say no and not feel guilty.
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