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The Bonds of Love: Psychoanalysis, Feminism, & the Problem of Domination
 
 

The Bonds of Love: Psychoanalysis, Feminism, & the Problem of Domination [Kindle Edition]

Jessica Benjamin
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Why do people submit to authority and derive pleasure even others have over them? What is the appeal of domination and submission, and why are they so prevalent in erotic life? Why is it so difficult for men and women to meet as equals? Why, indeed, do hey continue to recapitulate the positions of master and slave?

In The Bonds of Love, noted feminist theorist and psychoanalyst Jessica Benjamin explains why we accept and perpetuate relationships of domination and submission. She reveals that domination is a complex psychological process which ensnares both parties in bonds of complicity, and shows how it underlies our family life, our social institutions, and especially our sexual relations, in spite of our conscious commitment to equality and freedom.

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  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 1059 KB
  • Print Length: 307 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0394551338
  • Publisher: Pantheon (1 May 2013)
  • Sold by: Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B00C8S9X14
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #240,977 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A liberatory Cannon 20 Mar 2011
By Dr. Delvis Memphistopheles TOP 100 REVIEWER VINE VOICE
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The arguments are dense and rely on prior reading of Winnicott, a understanding of Freud and drive theory, some notion of object relations and Klein, a reading of Mahler and individuation and Bowlby/Fairbairn and Harlow.

However do not let that put you off. If you persevere with this you will come through with some sense of enlightenment. This is not a pop psychology book as Jessica looks at the psychological need to be dominated drawing from the early childhood experiences extrapolated into adulthood. In looking at this she draws on the story of "O."

Whilst simplistic feminism posited that once the sisters attained power the world would somehow be better more caring sharing and wholesome. Jessica in the midst of this herd like belief shows that those who are downtrodden do not equate into enlightened subjects. She has mined down deep to show how this could be achieved by showing the architectur of oppression amongst those who have been most trampled upon. In this case she looks at women. However this basis could be used to look at other groups who have been excluded from power. It can also be used to look at those who wield power.

This is a format Alice Miller has drawn upon to analyse the impact of familial violence and the world around families drawing on Kafka, Stalin, Hitler, Picasso, Mishima and a host of other people who have constructed the world we live within.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Very good but very dense. 10 July 1998
By A Customer
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Initially I was shown this book by a friend because it contains an analysis of the "Story of O".
I especially liked the attempt by Benjamin to work out a cogent explanation of the source and nature of feminine Sexual Desire. She doesn't arrive at adefinitive model but does present a convincing case that it lies in the sense of being able to feel safe and free within a "transistional space" wherein one feels ones drives as being from ones own self and not the result of identifcation with the other.
Overall a very dense book, that for me rewarded skipping around alot.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Bonds of love by J Benjamin 30 Oct 2013
By M.E.
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Excellent text, very well written and challenges many of our ideas in psychoanalysis. I think this book won't be outdated for a while yet! The author is a very clear thinker.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Very good but very dense. 10 July 1998
By A Customer - Published on Amazon.com
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Initially I was shown this book by a friend because it contains an analysis of the "Story of O".
I especially liked the attempt by Benjamin to work out a cogent explanation of the source and nature of feminine Sexual Desire. She doesn't arrive at adefinitive model but does present a convincing case that it lies in the sense of being able to feel safe and free within a "transistional space" wherein one feels ones drives as being from ones own self and not the result of identifcation with the other.
Overall a very dense book, that for me rewarded skipping around alot.
10 of 12 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Salvaging Freud 20 Jan 2003
By tamiii - Published on Amazon.com
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In remarkably clear language, Benjamin reworks Freudian psychoanalysis so to include the possibility of mothers and fathers mutually recognizing each other as subjects thereby enabling a cooperative relationship where similarities and differences are acknowledged. Without this modification, she argues that traditional Freudian theories with their sole reliance on individual intrapsychic reality cannot help but reproduce patriarchal gender relationships which are characterized by domination and submission, most notably reflected in the cultural polarity of male rationality and female vulnerability as seen, for example, in the Story of O. She further argues that the dispassionate rationality of the marketplace masks not only the dependency of the working class but male domination as well. Convincing in its integration of Freudian theory with both feminism and marxism, it marks a significant step forward in understanding how the personal is indeed political.
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Great book - ahead of her time. 21 Oct 2010
By Angela - Published on Amazon.com
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This is an incredible book. Jessica Benjamin is able to make complex and nuanced concepts easily accessible to her audience. This is one you will read, underline, and find yourself referencing. Her ideas are still very contemporary and I was surprised to see the publication date! I wish she would write more!
4.0 out of 5 stars Intriguing 7 Jan 2014
By wagner da matta pereira - Published on Amazon.com
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this book is very good. The theme presented in it is very updated, as women have a bigger share of the world than they used to have in the past. Besides, when it approaches the universe of women from a psychoanalytical perspective and fairy tales makes the issue of social conflict more interesting. I just think that it does not touches the matter of women's desire ( - What does a woman want?, asked Freud), making them naive and too submissive. It's not only a matter of a patriarchal culture. There are some secondary gains of both sides.
6 of 10 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The Ties that Bind 1 Aug 2001
By A Customer - Published on Amazon.com
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Are a bit ephemeral, according to Benjamin, for they suppose and originate in the constitutive acts of an other subject, acts which not only may recognize one's subjectivity but also fail to recognize one's subjectivity. Thus the pain when such a failure occurs. Thus the efforts individuals expend to manage their lives to avoid such pain.
Benjamin's book was hardly the first to address these issues. It was, however, the first to address them systematically while relating them to feminist theory. An important book. A must read for those interested in Left political and social theory.
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