By Happy mom of happy kids (CA) - See all my reviews
In this book, Dr. Dobson CLEARLY specifies the different personalities of children. Most of the people who is horrified by the sole idea of spanking a child are those who have not had an obvious need for this resource of discipline. I have two children with totally opposite personalities, my daughter who is a lovely, complaint, inteligent girl, NEVER had to be disciplined in this way. Actually, at the time when I only had my daughter I wouldn't have seen the need of this method, and is not that she was the perfect child but due to her personality by only explaining causes and effects, and patiently steering her behavior, I was succesful at raising a happy, obedient and extremely confident nice girl. After her, I was blessed with my adorable strong willed son, who I love as much as my daughter (for the ones who could conceive otherwise), but recognize the difference between their personalities and obviously the difference in the approach needed to discipline them. I have read lots of childrearing books and NOTHING worked with my son, the time was passing by and though I was being patient, I recognized the need to act, so I did. I applied Dr. Dobson's method of discipline and LOVE, did I mentioned LOVE? was that BIG and CLEAR enough????? It is not about pain, it is about discipline which has NOTICEABLY made my child HAPPIER, he has now better relationships at school, a much better relationship with us, his parents, with sister, etc. I have not had the need of doing it again in 3 months now. So, is a spanking (1 swat) in three months abuse?????? I don't think so. And I'm willing to do it again if necessary.
Again, NOT EVERY child needs this approach of discipline and Dr. Dobson has made that very clear in his book, and also has made clear that disciplining your child with LOVE does not make a child resentful, but grateful. There are many testimonies of this in this same blog. He clearly stated that ONLY those parents of a child like "this" (like mine) would understand.