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Surviving Your Adolescents: How to Manage and Let Go of Your 13–18 Year Olds

Surviving Your Adolescents: How to Manage and Let Go of Your 13–18 Year Olds [Kindle Edition]

Thomas W Phelan
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A step-by-step approach to handling teenagers, this guide helps parents end hassles and improve their relationship with their adolescent. Parents learn how to communicate with teenagers, how to manage teenage risk-taking, how to let go in certain situations, and when to seek professional attention. Concise and encouraging, this resource walks parents through the ups and downs of parenting teenagers as their kids push towards independence.

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  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 3142 KB
  • Print Length: 192 pages
  • Publisher: Parentmagic, Inc.; Third Edition, Third edition edition (1 Feb 2014)
  • Sold by: Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B00I2FWX64
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #288,684 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
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I dread to think what my family (and those of many of my friends) would be like if we hadn't discovered these simple tricks which make such huge, enjoyable changes to the delicate balance of family dynamics.
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5.0 out of 5 stars I'm not alone!! 2 April 2014
By Fiona
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Read this in a couple of hours, what an eye opener and a life saver for parents of terrible teens.
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By MattyD
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This was great- turns the tables on parental views of their teenagers and encourages New ways of thinking. Puts into perspective typical adolescent issues and helps parents cope with annoying behaviour whilst keeping an eye out for issues which really do need tackling.
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Survival! 10 July 2013
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Am extremely useful book that has already made a big difference to the chaos of the family. A must read!
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Great Book! 25 Jun 2012
By Dad of Divas - Published on
This was an easy to understand guide for any parent working with a teenager. The book is practical and offers a step-by-step approach that anyone can understand and appreciate. It is so important to be able to "let go" of your teen, even though you may not feel that they are ready, as it promotes independence, and this book helps parents with this process. Though it is not easy, it is important and I for one am happy to have read this far ahead of the teen years so that I can better prepare myself too. I also can already tell that I will be referring back and re-reading this as the time gets closer. If you currently have a teen or will have one in the near future, this is a great read that will provide you with some great guidance!
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4.0 out of 5 stars clear and practical information to help parents of teens 28 Aug 2012
By Wayne S. Walker - Published on
If you are currently the parents of teenagers or even of pre-teens, do you think that you'll be able to survive their adolescence? One of the basic problems which develop between parents and their teens is what author Thomas W. Phelan calls "The Snub." Have you ever had a conversation with your teen like this? "How was your day?" "Fine." "What did you do?" "Nothin'." As a result of this, the parents become frustrated because the teen is not communicating with them, and the teen becomes frustrated because the parents seem to be prying. The parents begin to wonder, "I don't know what to do with this kid any more." This book is all about what parents should "do" with their adolescents and, equally important, what not to do. Phelan says, "Your primary goal is no longer to control your teen. Your goal is to help them become competent adults who leave home, establish new relationships, contribute to the world, and enjoy life."
The first section, "Straight Thinking" encourages parents to appreciate what adolescence is like, recognize how their teen's behavior makes them feel, and learn their new job description. The new job proposal has five pieces, and the next five sections deal with each of these pieces: "Don't Take It Personally," "Manage and Let Go," "Stay in Touch," "Take Care of Yourself," and "Relax and Enjoy the Movie." Phelan reminds parents, "Not taking your teen's behavior personally is both an insight and a skill." I like his approach to automobile use. "Without being haughty, explain to your kids that their use of your car, other than for necessities like school, is a privilege. It's your car and you are letting them use it; they don't have an inherent right to your automobile." He mentions the "Four Cardinal Sins"--spur of the moment discussions, nagging, insight transplants, and arguing--that parents often fall into and makes suggestions on how to avoid them--sympathetic listening, talking about yourself, shared fun, and positive reinforcement. Also, he warns about becoming addicted to anger and promotes a program that will help moms and dads deal with their feelings about the rejection and risk problems, significantly reduce family turmoil, and protect teens and their communities from harm.
Phelan, who is a registered Ph.D. clinical psychologist and author of 1-2-3 Magic: Managing Difficult Behavior in Children 2-12, concludes, "Don't take that Snub personally, stick to your House Rules, stay in touch with your teens and take care of yourself as best you can....We'd have a shot at enjoying the movie. After all, in the grand scheme of things, it's really a very short film." At the end of the book are an appendix on how to manage various specific issues and an index for reference purposes. While the book is not for children but parents, even some adults might like to know that the "d" and "h" words are used occasionally, the phrase "My God" is found as an exclamation, and the term "son of a b****" occurs once. As with other books on parenting, not every bit of advice will be applicable in all situations. Some people may not agree with certain observations, especially a few relating to sex and romance. For example, it is simply said that "Large numbers of girls opt for abortion," but for many this is just not a possibility even to be considered for religious reasons. However, parents who are struggling with their teenagers all the time will find some clear and practical information that will be helpful to them.
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars down-to-earth and concise 30 May 2013
By Amazon Customer - Published on
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This book is great and so helpful for parents of teens. It is short and easy to read. It's hard to give your teen the freedom to find their way and at the same time endure some of their actions, but this book shows why that approach gives them the life skills they will need as adults. Good advice for how to talk with teens and what to not get mad about. Also helps in figuring out what limits to set.
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Should be manditory reading 20 Dec 2013
By shutterbug42 - Published on
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This book is essential for adapting your parenting habits to adolescents. It's also a very easy read. Very highly recommended.
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
2.0 out of 5 stars not so much.... 21 April 2013
By Sara Faith - Published on
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loved Dr. Phelan's earlier books for the younger ones, but couldn't get behind some of this one. Maybe I'm not letting go enough, but still feeling like they need some direction for proper living as young adults....
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