Trade in Yours
For a 1.91 Gift Card
Trade in
Have one to sell? Sell yours here
Sorry, this item is not available in
Image not available for
Image not available

Tell the Publisher!
Id like to read this book on Kindle

Don't have a Kindle? Get your Kindle here, or download a FREE Kindle Reading App.

Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder: Coping When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder [Paperback]

Paul T. Mason , Randi Kreger
4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (24 customer reviews)

Available from these sellers.


Amazon Price New from Used from
Hardcover --  
Paperback, Large Print 14.99  
Paperback, 9 Jun 1998 --  
Trade In this Item for up to 1.91
Trade in Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder: Coping When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder for an Amazon Gift Card of up to 1.91, which you can then spend on millions of items across the site. Trade-in values may vary (terms apply). Learn more
There is a newer edition of this item:
Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder 4.5 out of 5 stars (30)
Usually dispatched within 1 to 3 weeks

Book Description

9 Jun 1998
Stop Walking On Eggshells is a self-help guide that helps the family members and friends of individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) understand this self-destructive condition and learn what they can do to cope with it and take care of themselves. It is designed to help them understand how the disorder affects their loved ones and recognize what they can do to get off the emotional roller coasters and take care of themselves.

Product details

  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: New Harbinger Publications (9 Jun 1998)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 157224108X
  • ISBN-13: 978-1572241084
  • Product Dimensions: 22.6 x 15 x 1.8 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (24 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 113,403 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Product Description

About the Author

--This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

Inside This Book (Learn More)
First Sentence
Is someone you care about causing you a great deal of pain? Read the first page
Explore More
Browse Sample Pages
Front Cover | Copyright | Table of Contents | Excerpt
Search inside this book:

Sell a Digital Version of This Book in the Kindle Store

If you are a publisher or author and hold the digital rights to a book, you can sell a digital version of it in our Kindle Store. Learn more

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews
106 of 109 people found the following review helpful
By A Customer
One of the scariest things to happen to someone is to be diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder... or to have one of your loved ones diagnosed with BPD. There are many resources that explain what BPD is but they offer little help when it comes to dealing with this disorder in everyday life. Stop Walking on Eggshells not only explains the disorder in clear and simple language but it also offers ways for non-Borderline people to deal with the BPs in their life. And yet, this book is not exclusively for non-Borderline people. As a BP, I found the book to be very educational and sometimes shocking. I learned how my behavior affects others around me. It made me more aware of what non-BPs are thinking and feeling and encouraged me in my desire to change my behaviors through cognitive efforts. The authors are both sensitive to the needs of the Borderline Personality and the non-BPs by using realistic and non-accusatory language. Their goal is to help people deal with this sometimes unexplainable psychological disorder. They do not try to offer solutions but rather focus on different techniques that can be of great aid to non-BPs and Borderline Personalities alike. I recommend this book to anyone who has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, has a friend or family member with the disorder, or is planning on/works in a field where contact with people is a must.
Was this review helpful to you?
243 of 252 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The truth is out there 17 Feb 2004
By Feendog
For those of us who feel like we've been living in some weird plot of the X-files where every so often an alien presence takes over our loved one in unpredictable and often destructive ways this book might just be a godsend.
If you have never lived with someone who has BPD characteristics I can imagine it would be impossible to understand just what it's like. They're brilliant, funny, warm and engaging one moment - and then without warning irrational, blisteringly angry, abusive and manipulative. The rage and abuse can last for several hours, sometimes days, and often through the night until morning. After a while the partner without BPD, or the non-BP as it is termed in this book, begins to question their own sense of perception and what is acceptable and normal. This book provides a lightpost back to reality.
One previous review seems to consider this book as some sort of manual for leaving the relationship and providing convenient labels for justifying this action. I am convinced this reviewer must have read a different book. This book is emphatically not about providing labels but about understanding - understanding that the actions of the person with BP are driven by fear and pain, understanding that in order to be able to provide the framework where a healthy mutually supportive relationship can exist BOTH partners have to be healthy with healthy boundaries. This book is about helping the non-BP have the tools to maintain his or her own personhood and thereby ultimately benefit the relationship.
A BP demands so much of their partner's time, resources and emotional energy. The awful aching emptiness within them, this need for reassurance, this desperate attempt for anything to fill this void and ease the pain and terror.
Read more ›
Was this review helpful to you?
62 of 64 people found the following review helpful
By A Customer
There are many people who spend their time "walking on eggshells" around their partners - afraid of triggering unpredictable rages. Their lives are a rollercoaster with dramatic highs of passionate love, and terrible lows with rages and physical and verbal abuse. Many have no idea what hit them, why, or how to deal with it.
This book explains what BPD is, what the mechanics of the disorder are, and how to live with people with this disorder. There is also a web site, BPD central, and a e-mail support list for partners of people BPD.
I cannot thank Randi enough for writing this book. I cried while reading, because finally someone could put a name to this thing that was running my life, someone could tell me what was going on, and how to deal with it. The advice in the book is invaluable.
Was this review helpful to you?
5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Resource very readable 20 Aug 2011
If there is someone you know in your life with BPD and you want to help them this book is an excellent resource.

Worth its weight in gold.
Comment | 
Was this review helpful to you?
39 of 43 people found the following review helpful
I bought this book for my partner and tentatively looked through it. I was impressed and suprised that they have been able to take such a complex condition and explain it in so clearly and sensitively. By using the voice of sufferers and of their partners, it is one of the best descriptions of the condition which validates all concerned. It was also very enlightening for me in seeing how contrary and difficult it can be living with me, even though I'm in treatment and actively managing by BPD, that my partner will still be experiencing me as inconsistent in my attention - I wasn't getting that it could upset him. If this book does the job, he should start recognising what he has been going through and that it isn't all him. I believe knowledge is power and anything that gives us an edge and some tools is valuable. We'll see if this book can do the job.
Comment | 
Was this review helpful to you?
4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Book on Mental Health. 11 Mar 2011
By Finnie
Fantastic enlightening read for anyone who thinks they know someone with a personality disorder. It's cleverly written to suit the sufferer also, so the disorder is looked at from both sides. It's in an easy to read format with any jargon explained along the way.
Comment | 
Was this review helpful to you?
Would you like to see more reviews about this item?
Were these reviews helpful?   Let us know
Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars Stop Treading on Egg Shells
This book really helps us to understand borderline PD more clearly.

My friend thought that her brother's behaviour was all her fault - now she can see more clearly that... Read more
Published 1 month ago by Ellie
5.0 out of 5 stars Must have for anyone with a BPD in thier life..
This is an essential book for anyone who has a family member or friend who has borderline personality disorder. This book has changed our lives.
Published 11 months ago by Claire
5.0 out of 5 stars Great insight...
Gave me a fabulous insight into the mind of my friend who had borderline personality disorder, for a while it helped me to cope with the situation, though it is still very... Read more
Published on 4 May 2012 by Mr. John V. Denley
2.0 out of 5 stars Stop Walking on Eggshells backfired for me.
I have Borderline Personality Disorder with Bipolar Disorder & Anxiety. At the time of the book purchase, I had just gotten out of the hospital for a suicide attempt. Read more
Published on 31 Aug 2010 by Willow
4.0 out of 5 stars STOP WALKING ON EGGSHELLS
I ordered a used copy of the book titled 'Stop Walking on Eggshells - taking your life back when someone you care about has Borderline Personality Disorder' by Mason & Kreger. Read more
Published on 8 Mar 2010 by Sk Mcnally
5.0 out of 5 stars Just what I wanted!
This has really helped me to understand and interact with people I encounter with this disorder.
Thank you for this wonderful book!
Published on 25 Feb 2010 by Chaya Rubens
5.0 out of 5 stars Must have when dealing with BPD
Hi, I have bought this book a little while back because I am dealing with someone who has traits of BPD. Read more
Published on 2 Oct 2009 by urs_red
5.0 out of 5 stars Don't be a victim
Excellent book for family or friends of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. Helps you to understand their behaviour, realise that you didn't cause their bahaviour and get... Read more
Published on 3 Sep 2009 by Dr. K. L. Wesson
1.0 out of 5 stars Unhelpful labelling & a lack of compassion
Why is it that someone can have Bipolar Disorder (which has many overlapping symptoms with Borderline Personality Disorder - BPD) and they are treated with respect and sympathy... Read more
Published on 3 April 2009 by Miss K
4.0 out of 5 stars very useful for all dealing with BPD
This book is less clinical than 'I hate you, don't leave me'. Yes I understand that some people may take offence to some of the advice given but with such an emotive topic it's... Read more
Published on 19 Dec 2007 by Daphne Ligthart
Search Customer Reviews
Only search this product's reviews

Customer Discussions

This product's forum
Discussion Replies Latest Post
No discussions yet

Ask questions, Share opinions, Gain insight
Start a new discussion
First post:
Prompts for sign-in

Search Customer Discussions
Search all Amazon discussions

Look for similar items by category