Product Description
This incredibly effective, practical and also laugh out loud books tells you how to meet the right man and make him yours. Dating guru Lisa Daily followed her own advice and was proposed to by her wonderul husband at the top of the Eifel Tower. The strategies are simple, and are aimed at modern women who want equal pay, control of their finances and independence, but who also enjoy some of the more traditional joys of courtship, like when their date holds open the door, pays for dinner and kills spiders for them. In this smart, downright funny book, you will learn: How you may be unwittingly sabotaging your current relationship; the secret to getting a man to call you; the real reasons men fall in love and propose; and, how to be a woman men just can't live without.
From the Publisher
The Rules meets Sex in the City – this is the modern singleton’s guide to finding Mr Right and keeping him for good – or your money back!
From the Author
All of us have hit that dating slump at one time or another, when it seems like all your friends are coupled off, and you're sitting around on Friday night, eating frozen cookie dough right out of the package and wondering if you used up your nice-guy quota in college when you were still torturing men for sport. Hey, I've been through it myself! The good news is, there's at least one good, sweet, amazing guy out there just for you. Follow the methods in Stop Getting Dumped!, and I'll teach you how to meet him and make him yours. You'll learn the same simple secrets my closest friends and I used to meet and marry our fantastic husbands, and have loads of fun, too! Trust me girls, it works like catnip for men.
About the Author
Lisa Daily is based in Minneapolis, where she writes about love, relationships and dating. Her popular syndicated column appears on more than 50 dating and women's websites each month, seen and read by millions of people. She married her dream guy after he proposed to her in Paris. They have one son.
Excerpted from Stop Getting Dumped!: All You Need to Know to Make Men Fall Madly in Love with You by Lisa Daily. Copyright © 2003. Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.
You may wonder why I feel qualified to offer dating advice. After all, just who am I anyway? A shrink? A psychic? Your mother? None of the above. The fact is, I'm just a normal person like you. Now, I've certainly spent some time with a front row seat on the jerk parade. I was just lucky enough to have learned a few really important secrets about men and dating pretty early on.
Many of these methods came from the amazing, man-magnet women in my family, like my mom, and my darling, 70-something widowed aunt. My aunt is back in the dating pool after a long and happy marriage of almost fifty years. And while her friends are all complaining about the terrible man shortage, and duking it out for the scarce eligibles at bingo, my little auntie has gentlemen callers lined up down the driveway and around the block.
Some of the methods came from my little posse of girlfriends, as we bravely navigated the shark-infested waters of the dating pool. Using these simple secrets stopped me and the girls from making the mistakes our other friends kept making over and over. Of course, what we learned, we shared with each other. Together, we learned what works with men and what doesn't. More importantly, we learned how to Stop Getting Dumped!
Within just one year, four of my best girlfriends and I were all happily married. Two-and-a-half years earlier, we had all been single with few marriage prospects. The secrets you'll find in Stop Getting Dumped! worked for us. They can work for you.
Some men are fabulous Some men are jerks
At this point, you may be feeling like men are the enemy. This is just not true. Many men are amazing and wonderful. Men will scrape the snow off your car windshield, let you nibble the rest of their chocolate turtle cheesecake when you didn't order your own, and put a strong hand on the small of your back when they pull you close on the dance floor. Their shirts smell great when you wear them as pajamas, and they'll get up in the middle of the night with no more protection than your pink flowered bathrobe and a table lamp to see what's lurking outside at two in the morning. Men can be wonderful, especially to the right girl.
Yes, it's true. Some men aren't so wonderful. They cheat. They don't call. They're indifferent. This book will help you avoid those types of men. Sure, the occasional bad guy may sneak in, but if you follow the methods in this book, your chances of meeting and keeping one of the good ones will increase dramatically.
Do these methods really work?
Absolutely. A few years ago, I met a guy named Tom in a bar. (Pretty much like thousands of people meet every day in bars-well, at least every weekend.) He was a catch, and I used about every secret in this book to snare him. Six months later, this sweetie proposed to me on top of the Eiffel Tower. A little more than a year later we married on a beautiful, romantic yacht in the San Diego Bay. My husband is successful, charming and handsome, and is still the most caring, romantic man I've ever encountered.
I'm not the only one with a fantastic story to tell. My closest girlfriends all used these secrets, and married the men of their dreams. One of them got engaged that same summer in a hot air balloon. Another, on the peak of a breathtaking mountain. Yet another, at a romantic bed and breakfast.
Respect for the dumped
I'll just cut to the chase here, because I know you're wondering. Yes, I've been dumped. I am, after all, human. The thing is, and I can say this with all honesty, it only happened on the rare (brain-dead) occasions I strayed from the Stop Getting Dumped! methods. Who knows why I ever drifted from the formula? Sometimes, when things are going along too easily, we tend to stop working as hard.
It only takes a little focus to meet and keep the man of your dreams. Stick to the Stop Getting Dumped! plan. It won't let you down.
And now, a word from the whiners
Some of the methods in this book might seem old-fashioned or anti-feminist. I can live with the criticism; these methods work. The bottom line is, you'll end up with the kind of man you've always wanted, and you'll enrich your own life (man or not) in the process. I come from a long line of strong, amazing women, feminists all, who taught me that feminism is all about having the power to do whatever you want to do with your life. For some women, that means being a Wall Street tycoon, or race car driver. For others, it's the June Cleaver option, the house with the white picket fence, an adoring husband and a couple of Elmo-addicted toddlers running around. Or, it could be a combination of all of the above, maybe the Wall StreetÐElmo package. It's your prerogative to choose whatever life you want. And sorry, no matter what anyone says, wanting a husband and a family shouldn't get anybody kicked out of the sisterhood.
The core of feminism is supposed to be about giving women the choices to get what they want. If you want to marry a man that adores you, this book gives you a clear action plan to do just that.
Many of these methods came from the amazing, man-magnet women in my family, like my mom, and my darling, 70-something widowed aunt. My aunt is back in the dating pool after a long and happy marriage of almost fifty years. And while her friends are all complaining about the terrible man shortage, and duking it out for the scarce eligibles at bingo, my little auntie has gentlemen callers lined up down the driveway and around the block.
Some of the methods came from my little posse of girlfriends, as we bravely navigated the shark-infested waters of the dating pool. Using these simple secrets stopped me and the girls from making the mistakes our other friends kept making over and over. Of course, what we learned, we shared with each other. Together, we learned what works with men and what doesn't. More importantly, we learned how to Stop Getting Dumped!
Within just one year, four of my best girlfriends and I were all happily married. Two-and-a-half years earlier, we had all been single with few marriage prospects. The secrets you'll find in Stop Getting Dumped! worked for us. They can work for you.
Some men are fabulous Some men are jerks
At this point, you may be feeling like men are the enemy. This is just not true. Many men are amazing and wonderful. Men will scrape the snow off your car windshield, let you nibble the rest of their chocolate turtle cheesecake when you didn't order your own, and put a strong hand on the small of your back when they pull you close on the dance floor. Their shirts smell great when you wear them as pajamas, and they'll get up in the middle of the night with no more protection than your pink flowered bathrobe and a table lamp to see what's lurking outside at two in the morning. Men can be wonderful, especially to the right girl.
Yes, it's true. Some men aren't so wonderful. They cheat. They don't call. They're indifferent. This book will help you avoid those types of men. Sure, the occasional bad guy may sneak in, but if you follow the methods in this book, your chances of meeting and keeping one of the good ones will increase dramatically.
Do these methods really work?
Absolutely. A few years ago, I met a guy named Tom in a bar. (Pretty much like thousands of people meet every day in bars-well, at least every weekend.) He was a catch, and I used about every secret in this book to snare him. Six months later, this sweetie proposed to me on top of the Eiffel Tower. A little more than a year later we married on a beautiful, romantic yacht in the San Diego Bay. My husband is successful, charming and handsome, and is still the most caring, romantic man I've ever encountered.
I'm not the only one with a fantastic story to tell. My closest girlfriends all used these secrets, and married the men of their dreams. One of them got engaged that same summer in a hot air balloon. Another, on the peak of a breathtaking mountain. Yet another, at a romantic bed and breakfast.
Respect for the dumped
I'll just cut to the chase here, because I know you're wondering. Yes, I've been dumped. I am, after all, human. The thing is, and I can say this with all honesty, it only happened on the rare (brain-dead) occasions I strayed from the Stop Getting Dumped! methods. Who knows why I ever drifted from the formula? Sometimes, when things are going along too easily, we tend to stop working as hard.
It only takes a little focus to meet and keep the man of your dreams. Stick to the Stop Getting Dumped! plan. It won't let you down.
And now, a word from the whiners
Some of the methods in this book might seem old-fashioned or anti-feminist. I can live with the criticism; these methods work. The bottom line is, you'll end up with the kind of man you've always wanted, and you'll enrich your own life (man or not) in the process. I come from a long line of strong, amazing women, feminists all, who taught me that feminism is all about having the power to do whatever you want to do with your life. For some women, that means being a Wall Street tycoon, or race car driver. For others, it's the June Cleaver option, the house with the white picket fence, an adoring husband and a couple of Elmo-addicted toddlers running around. Or, it could be a combination of all of the above, maybe the Wall StreetÐElmo package. It's your prerogative to choose whatever life you want. And sorry, no matter what anyone says, wanting a husband and a family shouldn't get anybody kicked out of the sisterhood.
The core of feminism is supposed to be about giving women the choices to get what they want. If you want to marry a man that adores you, this book gives you a clear action plan to do just that.
