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Smart Stepfamily, The: Seven Steps to a Healthy Family

Smart Stepfamily, The: Seven Steps to a Healthy Family [Kindle Edition]

Ron L. Deal

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Ron Deal explodes the myth of the "blended" family as he provides practical, realistic solutions to the issues that stepfamilies face. He helps remarried and soon-to-be married couples

Recognize the unique personality and place of each family member
Solve the everyday puzzles of stepparenting and stepchildren relationships
Learn communication skills to deal with ex-spouses
Honor families of origin while developing new traditions
Invest the time to grow their stepfamily slowly rather than look for instant results

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"The best book available for stepfamilies that I’ve seen." —Dennis Rainey, Executive Director, FamilyLife.

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  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 2257 KB
  • Print Length: 276 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 076420159X
  • Publisher: Bethany House Publishers; 2006 Ed edition (1 Jan 2006)
  • Sold by: Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B006NYK41M
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #333,389 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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50 of 51 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Encouraging and Practical Book 1 Feb 2007
By Mary Odom - Published on
Ron Deal gives very practical advice on how to make step situations work in the face of divided loyalties, marital problems, parenting differences, toxic ex-spouses, etc. With the divorce rate at 74% for second marriages with children, there's obviously unique dynamics in a step family that couples must face along with all the other normal challenges of life and marriage. My family was helped by the explanations on how to gradually move the step parent into authority at various levels, and how to develop realistic expectations for the amount of time it will take for family members to accept each other and ultimately bond as a family.

For people who are considering a second marriage, please don't get discouraged by his "warnings" and occasional negativity. I wish that someone had told me the struggles that I might face before I remarried, and that someone had been straight with me about how hard it really is to blend two families. Thank God that we read the book before we threw in the towel. His recommendations really work, and our family has a lot less tension and pressure since reading The Smart Step Family.
53 of 56 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Good Christian Based Help for Step-Families 14 May 2009
By Private - Published on
I recently previewed a series of books as a potential texts to use with step families in crisis. The least informative of these books was "Happily Remarried" by David and Lisa Frisbie. Although the book was inherently readable and certainly got a few good points across--it was completely inadequate to deal with the complexities many step families face.

If your step family is dealing with serious issues I recommend "Smart Step Family" by Ron Deal or "Step Coupling" by Susan Wisdom and Jennifer Green. You will find either of these books to be far more comprehensive and useful, although each one has its own strengths. The "Smart Step Family" is a book written from a strong Christian perspective and as such provides significant spiritual and biblical background for people of faith. "Step Coupling" approaches the step family more from a secular counseling context and therefore does not delve much into the moral or ethical aspects of the various issues facing step families. Indeed, when discussing a foundational issue like honesty or dishonesty, the "Step Coupling" book explicitly states that neither value is right or wrong. This was almost a deal-breaker for me. I suspect that even most non-religious people would struggle with the idea that all behavior is value neutral. Nevertheless, the book largely arrives at the same conclusions as its Christian counterpart--albeit from a different perspective.

All in all, I think that any step family going through internal or external struggles would be well served to read both books. Both bring unique and significant insights into the challenges that step families face. The "Step Coupling" book is somewhat more earthy and easy to read, being filled with concrete examples from actual step families. The "Smart Step Family" book feels a little more detached, but still does a very good job of communicating the key issues that step families need to address, while acknowledging the spiritual needs of those involved and how to address them. In this sense, it is perhaps the deeper of the two. Either book will do a good job in helping the step family better understand itself and move toward a more fulfilling future together.
13 of 15 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Wise Advice, Practical Help 10 April 2007
By Barbara Sheldon, M.S.W. - Published on
Ron Deal is one of North America's leading experts on stepfamily life. Together with Dr. David and Lisa Frisbie, he is one of only two authors I know of who address blended families from a faith-based perspective. And there are a LOT of faith-based stepfamilies in North America!

This book is revised and updated from a previous edition, which was also good. Very practical help, very clear writing. Most of the challenges you'll face as a stepfamily are addressed here, with wise and down-to-earth advice.

I strongly recommend this for all stepfamilies, especially those who are persons of faith.

Barbara Sheldon, M.S.W.
I also highly recommend: Happily Remarried: *Making Decisions Together *Blending Families Successfully* Building a Love That Will Last
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Great for Pre-marital Conversations 2 Jun 2012
By MiningLady - Published on
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I recently got engaged to a man with 3 kids from a previous marriage. I've always had some concerns about how we blend my single life with his family situation and had sought out books about becoming a step-mother while dating. I ordered this book after becoming engaged and we have gone through the first few chapters. We have had great conversations about how our marriage impacts the kids, how to manage different things. The book confirms what many people have told me - it won't be easy, but we can have a successful, rewarding marriage if we communicate and work through things, especially with God at the center of it. While intimidating, this book also helps me see how much the kids can benefit from our strong relationship.
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars a must read 30 Dec 2009
By painter lady - Published on
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This is a must read for all engaged couples who have been married before, and/or are bringing children into the new marriage. It is a practical eye-opener that helps the couple prepare with appropriate expectations. All couples hope and assume that their next marriage will be successful, but many times expectations are too high and unrealistic, and this can sabatoge the new marriage. The book is also great for couples already married into a step-family situation, showing them how to set appropriate goals. The book lays it on the line how difficult the challenges are for a step family, but also encourages the reader to look for the strength and blessings God is providing for them daily.
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