| ||||||||||||||||||||||||
 Trade In this Item for up to £3.35
Get an extra £5 when you trade in books worth £10 or more until June 30, 2012. Trade in Shame: the Power of Caring for an Amazon.co.uk gift card of up to £3.35, which you can then spend on millions of items across the site. Trade-in values may vary (terms apply). Find more products eligible for trade-in.
|
Frequently Bought Together
Product details
|
More About the Author
Suggested Tags from Similar Products(What's this?)Be the first one to add a relevant tag (keyword that's strongly related to this product)
|
Sell a Digital Version of This Book in the Kindle Store
If you are a publisher or author and hold the digital rights to a book, you can sell a digital version of it in our Kindle Store.
Learn more
What Other Items Do Customers Buy After Viewing This Item?
Customer Reviews
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
10 of 11 people found the following review helpful
Format:Hardcover
Superb book. The writing style is unique switching between theory and case histories. The emotion of shame has not clearly defined and many therapists/counsellors do not have a grip on it. The closest you will find is it is the opposite of self esteem. This book takes you further. It names shame and it's permutations and brings it to awareness.
Buy it.
Buy it.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews on Amazon.com (beta)
Amazon.com:
3 reviews
54 of 54 people found the following review helpful
An excellent study of how shame occurs
30 Sep 2001
Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase
Kaufman's book isn't the newest one on the block, but it *is* an excellent study of how shame occurs, develops, and takes hold of a life. He proceeds through the stages of shame development, from external shaming experiences to the internalization of shame, the development of defense mechanisms, and the disowning of self. His descriptions and examples of how it happens seem right-on and fairly in-depth... a few of them triggered new understandings, and many put together things I'd observed but not yet connected. His tying addiction and shame, with shame causing the addiction (as a means of escape) and the addiction causing more shame explains the vicious-spiral effect of both shame and addiction extremely well. I like to know *why* things happen, and Kaufman gives an excellent explanation of WHY.
If you seek understanding, it's an excellent book and I'd recommend it. However, there are a few caveats. While this is an excellent study of how shame works, it does NOT describe how to fix it. The section on recovery is fairly general and gives examples of recovery in a client-therapist situation, but doesn't really give steps or suggestions to fix it yourself. Kaufman's writing style seems a little indirect, theoretical rather than forceful. If you want to be hit square-on in the face with very basic facts without absorbing how it all works and just told, quickly and simply, how to *fix it*, you may be disappointed or bored by this book.
41 of 42 people found the following review helpful
A profoundly important examination of shame dynamics.
16 Jan 1999
Format:Paperback
Finding this book profoundly changed my life, by illuminating for me an aspect of human experience that had never been addressed (or even idendtified accurately!) in all my years of exploring various forms of psychotherapy. Indeed, 14 years later, I find that the field of psychotherapy is still largely uninformed/underinformed about the effects of shame dynamics on therapy itself - and I believe that the misreading of MOST therapists of this vitally important affect is the cause of most therapy failure. I totally agree with Donald Nathanson: this is the book with which to begin exploring shame. If you decide to explore further, Kaufman's more therapist-oriented "THE PSYCHOLOGY OF SHAME" is excellent, as are Nathanson's books.
27 of 28 people found the following review helpful
The Seminal Book on Shame
12 Feb 2003
Format:Paperback
I can't count how many people I've met over the years, who like me, think this book changed their lives. It offers major, dazzling insight into human experience that's clear, humane, and just plain brilliant. Everyone, famous or not, writing about shame in the last 2 decades owes a debt to this book whether they admit it or not. And when you hear a character like the heroine of "Clueless" talk about having a major shame spiral--this is where the term originated. That's how significant this book is--it's influenced popular culture, and the author's still alive. I highly recommend the author's other books on shame, and his children's book, Stick Up For Yourself!
Were these reviews helpful?
Let us know
Customer Discussions
|
This product's forum
Active discussions in related forums
Search Customer Discussions
|
Related forums
|
Listmania!
Look for similar items by category
Look for similar items by subject
Feedback
- Would you like to update product info or give feedback on images?
- I am the Author, and I want to comment on my book.
- I am the Publisher, and I want to comment on this book.
|
