sexual desire is that force which attracts one person to another person, the two marry in a legal ceremony performed within a church. sexual desire resides within the marriage. the couple have children and educate them in, among other lessons, the social construct of sexual desire.
for adults, that sexual education continues as a philosophical investigation by roger scruton. a highly entertaining, and provocative, read for students of philosophy, taking in philosophical ideas from platonic love to wittgensteinian forms of life.
scruton writes that the general reader can follow his argument, except for the difficult passages found in the two appendix and chapter three. for philosophy students, those interested in g.e.m. anscombe, you don't want to skip chapter three.
here's what scruton says about his investigation in chapter one, the problem: it needs little observation to recognize that our civilization has suffered a profound crisis in sexual behaviour and in sexual morality. ... it seems to me inevitable that sexual conduct should be encumbered with moral scruples. i also believe that many of these scruples are justifiable, and that the failure to see this stems from a mistaken conception of the nature of desire. hence my first task will be one of description: what is sexual desire as a phenomenon of human experience? i shall then try to sketch a sexual morality, whose basis will be located, not in religious belief, but in human nature, and i shall rely upon the general strategy explored by aristotle in the nicomachaen ethics, in order to pass from the facts of human nature to the morality which they imply. ... the problem of sexual desire becomes, in the end, a political problem, and the somewhat conservative moral conclusions that i shall defend must be seen as part of the larger political conservativism which they already imply, and for which they provide, indeed, one of the deepest justifications-a justification that stems from the inner quality of the most private human experience.'
after reading chapter one, i seriously wondered if sexual activities would be perceived still as fun or as a moral duty of which nietzsche said: happiness is not important, what's important is getting the work done.
personally, i could have done without the political premise and conclusion. using philosophy to push an agenda, usually makes for bad philosophy, and there's plenty of good philosophy in scruton's book.
but maybe scruton is right, we've brought it upon ourselves, sexually we've gotten out of hand and as a consequence of our bad behaviour our sexual desire must be grounded. then sent to bed.