I have read and re-read this book many times - for both my first and second child. It encourages you to see your baby as an individual from the first day, to look and understand how he or she is trying to communicate with you. As you get into practise, following the down-to-earth advice, your baby becomes clearer. With my second child, I found this allowed me time to enjoy my baby, without worry over 'too much' crying, etc. For first time parents, reading this before you baby is born will allow you time to think about how you want to parent your child. It isnt just about getting your baby to sleep. It is about enjoying those vital early months, communicating with your baby, and watching their fascinating development take place.