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  • Paperback: 208 pages
  • Publisher: Zondervan (1 Oct. 1996)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0310210844
  • ISBN-13: 978-0310210849
  • Product Dimensions: 13.3 x 1.2 x 20.3 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (18 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 67,155 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Too many of us have invested ourselves into relationships that left us deeply wounded. We've been abandoned or taken advantage of, and left with little to show for what we've given. We've lost our sense of security and personal value in the process. And what's worse, we tend to either repeat the same mistakes of judgment over and over . . . Or else lock the doors of our hearts entirely and throw away the key. Why do we choose the wrong people to get involved with? Is it possible to change? And if so, where does one begin? Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer solid guidance for making safe choices in relationships, from friendships to romance. They help identify the nurturing people we all need in our lives, as well as ones we need to learn to avoid. Safe People will help you to recognize 20 traits of relationally untrustworthy people. Discover what makes some people relationally safe, and how to avoid unhealthy entanglements. You'll learn about things within yourself that jeopardize your relational security. And you'll find out what to do and what not to do to develop a balanced, healthy approach to relationships.

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Dr. Henry Cloud is a popular speaker, and cohost, with Dr. John Townsend, of the nationally broadcast New Life Live! Radio program, and cofounder of Cloud-Townsend Clinic and Cloud-Townsend Resources. His bestselling books include the Gold Medallion Award-winning Boundaries books and Making Small Groups Work. Dr. Cloud and his wife and two daughters live in Southern California. El Dr. Henry Cloud es un conferenciante de gran popularidad. Con el Dr. John Townsend es anfitrion del programa de radio New Life Live!, ademas de ambos ser fundadores de la Clinica Cloud-Townsend y de la organizacion Cloud-Townsend Resources. Es el autor de varios libros premiados con el reconocimiento Gold Medallion, entre ellos A"LimitesA" y A"El poder transformador de los grupos pequenosA". El Dr. Cloud, su esposa y sus dos hijas radican en el Sur de California. Dr. John Townsend, clinical psychologist, entertaining speaker, and co-founder of Cloud-Townsend Resources, has authored or co-authored nineteen books, including the best selling Gold Medallion book 'Boundaries,' and Boundaries in Marriage. Dr. Townsend is a regular co-host on New Life Live Radio, and together with Dr. Henry Cloud he developed the Ultimate Leadership Program, a highly effective week-long workshop designed to accelerate the personal and professional growth of businesspeople, pastors, ministry, and small-group leaders. He also partners with Church Communications Network, which broadcasts his leadership and relationship talks and seminars to churches via satellite across North America. Dr. Townsend lives in Southern California. Dr. John Townsend es un popular conferencista y un conocidisimo autor bestter. Es graduado de psicologia clinica de Rosemead Graduate School of Psychology de Biola University. Ademas es coautor de numerosos libros incluyendo el ganador de la Medalla de Oro Limites. El es coanfitrion del programa radial emitido a nivel nacional !New Life Live!

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34 of 34 people found the following review helpful By JesusGirl on 21 Jun. 2006
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This book is a real gem. The author shows you what healthy interaction should look like and how to confront or change your relationships with those who are not emotionally healthy, or accept that they are not able/willing to change at this point in time and avoid them....guilt free.

As a christian I really appreciated the practical help combined with biblical knowledge and it busts some of the wrong thinking and wrong teaching that we often have e.g. turn the other cheek = act like a doormat!
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24 of 24 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on 9 Aug. 2005
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This is a lovely little book, enjoyable and easy to read. It helps reconcile the Christian teachings with modern life, explaining some "simple" truths about life and relating to others in a helpful manner. Great reminder of the need to cherish our spiritual and emotional needs in times of trouble. I find it truly inspiring in the process of personal growth and fulfilment. The summaries at the end of each chapter make it easy to revisit and consult when in doubt... Highly recommended!
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32 of 33 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on 25 Nov. 1997
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I work as a lay counselor at our church. This book is wonderfully written and will be a tremendous resource for our library. I am so grateful to Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend for the taking the time to write such helpful information. Their book Boundries has already become very popular and I am sure this one will as well. Practical, real and honest, they deal with matters of the heart that often trip so many of us up. It's scriptural, loving and holds up a mirror so we can see ourselves. A very useful thing indeed!
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By R S Martin on 23 Dec. 2010
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This little book has been priceless in letting me 'see' some of the flaws and shortcomings there have been in my own life over the years. Personal flaws that have caused immense hurt, pain, sorrow and loss to myself and others. Reading it has been like looking into a mirror. Most importantly, reading it has given me great hope and encouragement that self-destructive patterns CAN change; my heart melt, and a new beginning emerge in the develoment of vital safe relationships. I would strongly reccommend this book to those who seek safe relationships and to those who wish to be 'Safe People' for others. 'Safe People' - a wonderful little book; a tremendous blessing! Thank you so much Dr's H.Cloud & J.Townsend.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By M on 7 Aug. 2010
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I am glad I found this book!!The language, descriptions are very clear, concise and afer initial reading I easily recognised patterns of some unsafe or truly toxic people around me.The book helped me to recognised some of these patterns in myself ,and what to do in order to get rid of them and lead more healthy, assertive life .Very helpful, insightful , positive book.!I bought additionally some books on codependency as it complements this book perfectly, Many of toxic or unsafe people come from unloving,destructive families ,and are themselves the victims of toxic parenting like myself. This book is full a good advice, solutions. It simply is A LITTLE GEM!!!It gave me a lot of confidence I lacked when dealing with toxic people.But most importantly I got finally rid of an awful feeling of guilt eating my heart away each time I tried to limit or avoid toxic people.
As a Christian , I know now that it is ok to avoid , limit or cut off completely some unhealthy people fom my life and still be ok with it.
I highly recommend this book. : )
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25 of 28 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on 16 May 1998
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This book is written so well, so clear, and so boldly that one leaves it having gained a new confidence in choosing healthy relationships. These authors are straight forward and to the point, and write with no room for "sissyness". For example, they clearly point out the things you may be doing to contribute to the "drooping" state of your relationships. (Otherwise, you wouldn't be reading this review. A workbook for the paperback edition is also available.) I regret that the rating only goes up to ten, as this book DESERVES a 20 out of ten. If you are an adult or almost an adult, then you are required to (I can't REALLY order you to but I wish I could) read this. This book is THAT GOOD and it's message THAT IMPORTANT! Order it yesterday!
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Amazon Customer on 14 Aug. 2007
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A great book, it doesn't take much to get to grips with the knowledge it contains and if like me you are really getting fed up with the wrong type of people I'd recommend it as a place to get some practical idea's about what's going on with the relationships in your life.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Clare Price on 23 Jun. 2010
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These guys are gifted Christian psychologists who write in a very accessible way for those of us without psychology degrees! This book is excellent and good to read as a follow-on to "Boundaries" by the same authors.
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