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SM 101: A Realistic Introduction [Paperback]

Jay Wiseman
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Product details

  • Paperback: 392 pages
  • Publisher: Greenery Press; 2nd Revised edition edition (8 Dec 1997)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0963976389
  • ISBN-13: 978-0963976383
  • Product Dimensions: 23 x 15.3 x 2 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 77,015 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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The highly regarded, comprehensive introduction to consensual BDSM -- bondage, giving and receiving pain, role-playing, negotiation, finding partners, and more. This edition is updated and expanded, including a chapter on "SM Organizations," sections on lifestyle relationships, SM and pregnancy, and more, plus illustrations of key points.

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4.7 out of 5 stars
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61 of 63 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Does Exactly What It Says On The Tin! 8 Jun 2003
The strapline for the book says 'a realistic introduction...' and that's exactly what you get.
As a newcomer to BDSM, I was looking for something to give me an introduction to the scene. I had visited several websites' discussion pages, but found the things there a bit cliquey and not very helpful.
SM101, on the other hand, was extremely useful. The book assumes no prior knowledge of S & M, but takes the reader through the principles of playing, how to play safely, use of safewords and contracts. It then goes on to look at some of the techniques used, such as whipping, ropework, blindfolds and gags, and tells you how to improvise some equipment yourself. It has lots of ideas for scenes, and also tells you how to find like-minded people in your area.
The writing style is relaxed, honest and friendly, and throughout the book there are amusing quotes from people in the BDSM community, which help give it a down to earth quality - it's not at all voyeuristic or pervy - although I'm not sure I'd leave it on the coffee table!
The only drawback is that, with it being an American book, many of the contacts and suppliers are unavailable here - though there are of course web addresses and links too.
All in all, an extremely good introduction to the BDSM lifestlye. I found it a real confidence boost... and it gave me several ideas to try!
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32 of 33 people found the following review helpful
This book reads like a manual for those wishing to learn more about the practicalities of BDSM relationships. Its honest, friendly and amusing. It doesn't have to be read from beginning to end and dipping into it often yeilds some surprising things.
As said its very practical and you can have hours of fun subjecting one another to various suggestions such as bondage, clothes pegs, flogging and training plans, all of which can be done as seriously or flippantly as desired. There is a lot of really good advice on how to play safe and respectfully
We think this book is a must for anyone wanting a hand finding their feet in the kinky world of BDSM.
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11 of 11 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars SM or H&S? 8 Nov 2007
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This was quite an informative book for the beginner in BDSM practice, and was particularly useful in slave training if that is your area of interest. Although safety is paramount in all activities (safe, sane and consensual, right?), there were times when it became a bit like reading a health and safety manual instead of a new erotic discovery. For example, hot wax uses candles that are a potential fire risk..... no kidding Sherlock?

There are little sayings on each page that describe various fantasies and particular kinks, which were quite delicious however!!! Altogether a useful read but I feel that John Warren's "The Loving Dominant" and Philip Miller/Molly Devon's "Screw the Roses Send me the Thorns" are much better in terms of keeping it practical and safe but exploring the playful aspects with a better overall narrative.
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35 of 37 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The book to move you from fantasy to reality 27 Aug 1999
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SM 101 presents in an easy to follow format everything you ever wanted to know about sadomasochism but didn't even know enough to ask. The book is impressive in its scope, addressing areas of bondage, pain processing, dom/sub interactions, safety, how to use floggers, whips, clamps and other implements of "torture", finding partners, and even how to start your own SM organization. My favorite part of the book are the random quotes scattered throughout , addressing all aspects of SM from a personal perspective. SM 101 is more than a how-to book (though the novice will find numerous specifics on just how exactly to tie that knot or what to do with that belt folded so innocently in the dresser ), it includes a significant amount of personal reflection and philosophy gleaned from being an active and well known participant in the scene for over 25 years. Highly recommended.
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16 of 19 people found the following review helpful
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"SM101, A Realistic Introduction, Second Edition" by Jay Wiseman is what I consider to be the best book for newcomers to BDSM and those who want additional information about things they haven't yet tried or understanding terms and techniques that they may not be familiar with.
Jay writes in an easy style; the book is written in plain language and is completely understandable... infinitely "readable". He defines most all the current usage terminology, discusses the basics of SM play and Dominance and Submission better than anyone else in my opinion. It is a "How To" and a "How Not to Do" with explanations about every phase of BDSM play.
The best reason to buy this book, however, is to really understand what safety is all about. Also the book contains lots of resources for further information about the lifestyle as well as a wonderful "negotiation" form for new and experienced partners so that their sessions will be mutually safe and pleasurable. He stresses something that I know is true from my many years in the lifestyle and that is that open communication between consensual partners is of the utmost importance.
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5 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent introduction! 26 July 1998
By A Customer
In contrast to many books on sadomasochism, SM 101 offers an enlightened introduction, complete with safe, easy-to-understand and humorous instructions and ideas. Wiseman's insights into the drives of those who identify as being "into SM" open the doors for many who have kept their desires in the closet to come out and begin to practice in a safe and healthy manner. He allows his readers to benefit from his years of experience, both as a sadomasochist and as a paramedic. This book is a fun read, and enlightening and emotionally involving as well.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book for beginners
I'm a gay man, but I found this book was just as applicable to me as if I was a straight guy as all the stuff about safety and types of play is obviously applicable to any... Read more
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5.0 out of 5 stars educational
not as good as others but at the same time its still worth 5 starts, bits missing and not so explanetary as it could be , recomended for non beginners .
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This well written book deals in considerable detail with the difficult subject of BDSM. His matter of fact style and emphasis on safety were particularly illuminating. Read more
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3.0 out of 5 stars Good grounding
Provides a good grounding in the basic mechanical side is S and M. A large part of the Dom/sub relationships is the emotional/mental dynamic which this book doesn't cover but never... Read more
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3.0 out of 5 stars Not what I expected
I expected this book to be an exploration of the reasons that people enjoy s/m - a more pyschological/sociological exploration and justification of s/m. Read more
Published on 17 April 2011 by blue
5.0 out of 5 stars Great book for anyone with any BDSM interest
Being new and fresh faced to the world of S&M, and to be honest a little frightened of dipping my toe into the pool for the first time this book really helped. Read more
Published on 16 Oct 2010 by Lady Lycan
5.0 out of 5 stars Interesting, safe, instructional
A 'must have' for anyone interested in this scene. It is very sensibly written with safety tips everywhere, instructional information and a good sense of humour
Was... Read more
Published on 18 Jan 2010 by J
5.0 out of 5 stars Worth taking the time to read
Having ordered this book to find out more about BDSM, when I received it it seemed a bit too "wordy" and looked like heavy reading. Read more
Published on 7 Jan 2010 by Gymbunnie
5.0 out of 5 stars common sense 101
This book is bursting with common sense on a 'difficult' subject, (unless you are sexually adventurous by nature) there is a big emphasis on safety, Jay spent a number of years... Read more
Published on 5 Oct 2009 by guineapig
5.0 out of 5 stars A great book for SM beginners
This is a great book for anyone wishing to experiment in SM but unsure how to.
Heartilly recommended!
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