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Advice on how to behave, speak and act in order to get your man to propose. This book gives advice on letting him do all the work in the relationship, always ending phone conversations first and not having sex on the first, second or even third date. --This text refers to the Paperback edition.

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Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider have helped countless unmarried women find marital bliss. Ellen is studing for her Masters in social work and Sherrie is a freelance journalist. They have become chat show regulars and household names in the USA. --This text refers to the Paperback edition.

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No one seems to remember exactly how The Rules got started, but we think they began circa 1917 with Melanie's grandmother who made men wait nervously in her parent's parlor in a small suburb of Michigan. Read the first page

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1.0 out of 5 stars i regret ever reading this book, 3 April 2003

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This review is from: The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr.Right (Paperback)

I tried the rules out myself, kept phone calls short, played hard to get, it was fun and I enjoyed the game. Then I met someone whom I've since come to see in hindsight genuinely cared for me. I found the rules hard to keep because I just wanted to spend time with him and open up to him, but I'd been hurt before so I decided to keep using them to protect myself. But...

...he found the book in my room, read through it while I was out, and saw that some things which we had argued about in the past (e.g. why I rarely phoned him, why I was so "busy") and had caused some friction in our relationship were a result of the rules, which I hadn't told him about. He told me he couldn't trust my word or respect me any more for treating him like the subject of an experiment, and left - I haven't been able to contact him since.

It started out like a game and made me feel desired and in control for a while but it has left me in a bad place emotionally, I feel like I've blown perhaps what could have worked and lost a degree of my own self-respect too. I regret BIG TIME ever picking up this silly, destructive book and applying it to my life.

The rules won't win the love of any man worth winning, just men who are desperate, dull and predictable in their behaviour. The best advice to women in this book is "be an uncommon creature" - but I've come to realise that such a woman would use her own wisdom and character, not a list of shallow rules about how to live her life.

I've learnt a lot from this book, but not what I was expecting to - above all, that games can end up hurting everyone involved. You're better off reading a book that helps you communicate with and understand your partner better rather than one that teaches you how to play cheap psychological tricks on them.

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4.0 out of 5 stars If you want to get married - this is the book for you!, 24 Feb 2002

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This is the book to read if you want to get married. It is a serious approach to capturing the heart of a man by firing up 'his desire', and keeping it. Instead of chapters, the book is set out in rules - 55 in total. It covers almost every potential dating situation. Everything outlined requires tremendous will power and contravenes all typical female/modern dating activity - it's taking you back to the 'good old days'. You can definitely see where results would be achieved.

It is very entertaining, and well written. It's the 'smug marrieds' passing down the widsom to the 'singletons' of this world in a non-patronising way. I thoroughly enjoyed reading it, and it does make sense - you can see where the psychology behind it is coming from. I'm just not quite sure how achievable it really is......

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5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Stuff, 16 Dec 2002

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This book really doesn't deserve the criticism it has attracted. The main problem I think is that people read it and then try to do the Rules verbatim and thats difficult because of all the differing situations we are frequently in. The best rule and strangely enough the one that gets the feminists quite riled up in my opinion is the "be a creature unlike any other" - when I am doing this (and I admit it's hard to remember) I really do feel relaxed and serene and capable. Surely being that person the rest will follow on naturally? It really is the most important rule in the book. The book made me sad when I read it in some parts because I recognised all my silly mistakes and to think of the days/hours/years I must have spent messing around and agonising over someone who never panned out - no matter how much energy I expended. This book, despite being panned in many quarters, describes a way of being that will free women from that mess. It's interesting because I don't talk about the Rules very much because they are so controversial but I notice the women who oppose such games (on feminist grounds) are actually the one's who when a great guy comes into their lives they chase, agonise and despair - the Rules would save them from all that. It took a long time for me to incorporate the Rules into my life in a manageable way. I found it difficult to translate them into my own life but as per the above being a creature unlike any other really helps a lot. You don't have to do that all the time but it sure helps when one is out and about or going to a party or whatever. Also, I found it hard because often I would doubt them but take it from me - as hard and difficult as they are to do they do provide results. The thing that you must trade off here is that if a guy isn't really interested in pursuing you, when you do the Rules he won't pursue you (because he's really not that interested and never was up for the pursuing thing). The trade off is that you will often meet men who are in that catagory and who you are interested in and the temptation is to chase them and just have the little bit of romance (you know won't last but what the hell). Thats the choice you make in this game because armed with the Rules any guy who is serious gets a chance to pursue someone who doesn't suffocate him and really capture you and experience his own biological need for manliness in the process. However, if he's not serious he won't do that so you have to have the courage of your convictions here and know that when you do the Rules you do get the serious one's but you have to let a lot of fun times (and possible pain it is fair to say) slide too. The Rules really do free up a lot of your emotional energy to focus on other things in your life so I do think the criticism is unfair but as I said, theres an awful lot of truth in that little book and we all know the saying don't we?

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