I have given or loaned out more copies of this book than any other during the course of my pastoral ministry. It was given to me during a period of real difficulty and helped enormously. The description of the spiritual life as three movements: towards ourselves, a movement from loneliness to solitude; towards others, a movement from hostility to hospitality; and towards God, a movement from illusion to prayer; is helpful in itself. The book also builds from one section to the next, showing that each movement is dependent on the other. We can't move towards others if we are still struggling to meet our own loneliness because we will then use others rather than giving to them. Loneliness is a universal human experience and I would warmly commend this book not only to Christians, but to anyone with a sense that there is more to life than the material world. Nouwen's treatment of Psalm 4 in section three, illustrating that very often true prayer is about knowing ourselves before God is superb.