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Putting Children First: A Handbook for Separated Parents [Paperback]

Karen Woodall , Nick Woodall
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2 Aug 2007
Children living in separated family situations fare best when their relationship with each of their parents continues to be close. Putting Children First helps mothers and fathers unlock and resolve the conflict around contact with children that can arise during and after separation. Using strategies such as parenting plans, scripted phone calls and parenting meetings, the book will enable parents to communicate effectively on all the most important things in their children's lives - and make relaxed arrangements for the continued involvement by both parents with their children.

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  • Paperback: 288 pages
  • Publisher: Piatkus (2 Aug 2007)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0749928042
  • ISBN-13: 978-0749928049
  • Product Dimensions: 2.3 x 13.3 x 20.8 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (21 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 205,397 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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So many people who are attempting to cope with family separation need help. The Centre for Separated Families offers a wide ranging, imaginative series of programmes, run by people with just the right level of expertise. (Professor Judy Dunn, Institute of Psychiatry, London)

Putting Children First: a handbook for separated parents by Karen and Nick Woodall (Piatkus Books, 2007) is, quite simply, the best book on separation that we have ever read. Both the authors work at the Centre for Separated Families and have a wealth of (Fatherhood Institute)

The book is clearly set out and the chapters logically and thoroughly explore all the issues that might arise before reaching a conclusion with sound advice on each topic (Parenting Without Tears)

When the authors of a book have been through the scenario and actually run a centre for Separated Families, you know you can trust the content and benefit from the knowledge shared. With family separations being part of today's society, it is important t (From Bump to Grump)

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Skills and advice for building co-operative arrangements for sharing care of children --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

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34 of 34 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Sensitive and sensible advice 25 Aug 2007
I have just finished reading this book and wish I had been able to read it two years ago when I was going through a nasty divorce. My children suffered horribly all through the process because I was an emotional wreck and was obsessed with getting my own back on their dad. Two years on and I can look back and see what I did wrong - if I had had this book then I would have known that what I was feeling was normal but that I didn't need to react as I did. Their dad was to blame for the end of our relationship not them and he did want to keep seeing them and spending time with them but I couldn't let them as I was so angry. Now they see him rarely and I know that they miss him. If you are going through divorce, read this and get your ex to read it. Children don't deserve to be caught up in their parents mess.
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18 of 18 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A fantastic help in my situation. 28 July 2007
I have just split up from my partner and she has got my two daughters living with her. We have argued and argued. This book has helped me to negotiate with her and I now see my girls more often and they are happier. I was gutted when my relationship split up but the book also has lots of advice for dealing with that. The book is written in a clear, direct way that is easy to follow.It explains things from a child's point of view and shows you ways to improve communication. I recommend it!
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21 of 22 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars something for everyone 8 Jan 2008
By Toni P
I am forty seven and recently got divorced from my wife of 23 years by mutual consent. We were really worried about how this would affect our kids so we bought as many books as possible on the subject and read them from cover to cover. I am relieved to find that what we thought we were doing right was actually right! We always wanted to provide the kids with a new way of life that included both of us and our kids go from my home to thier mom's and back several times a week to suit themselves. We live close by so its easy for them to do that but I thought they might think we were weird or wonder why we split up in the first place it was so easy. This book made me realise that we are very lucky in being able to still respect each other and our children and that so many other people don't get to this place very easily. Putting Children First gave me lots of new ideas too, for things to do with the kids and for ways of working out what to do in the future if one of us meets another person, which is bound to happen sooner or later. Anyway just wanted to say that not everyone finds it impossible but even those who find it easy need reassurance that they are getting it right and this book does just that in a very straightforward way. Its got something for everyone and I recommend it highly.
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Best book for separating parents 21 April 2010
I work professionally with families and children. This is, in my opinion, the best book for separating parents that is on the market. It focuses absolutely on the needs of the children and it REALLY understands both the positions of mothers and fathers, which are quite different.
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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Good book to give to your kids dad! 26 July 2007
Easy to read, deals with all of the difficult bits about bringing up kids after divorce. Gives straightforward advice and ideas to sort out the things that cause hassle between parents. Particularly liked the bits about surviving after breaking up and the bits about what kids feel and what to do about it. Great book.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Just Brilliant 1 Jan 2013
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I work with a lot of separated or separating parents. We have to acknowledge that the vast majority of parents want to protect their children from the effects of divorce but find the advice of well meaning emotive friends confusing and the demands of the legal system and financial considerations damaging. This book enables parents to priortise the needs of their children and consider their own health and well being during extremely stressful times.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Must read! 9 Jun 2012
An excellent support for all parents, not just separated ones. Even in the most amicable of situations this highlights the need for parents, grandparents and all other extended family members to remember that children are innocent and will always love both parents regardless of personality or actions. Also good tips on how to keep communicating even in the most painful of situations.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Good read for those going through a seperation 21 Oct 2011
By pamelah
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I found this book really helpful and not just with the children in mind, it also helped with emotions/feeling the parents go through. At first I skimmed the book all the way through and know that I will refer to it again and again when specific issues arise.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
found this very useful, doesn't take sides or judge, well worth reading
Published 26 days ago by Mrs.M
5.0 out of 5 stars OK as far as I know
I bought this for my daughter who has recently separated from her husband in hopes that it will help her through a very difficult time. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Mrs. E. A. Brockway
4.0 out of 5 stars The Guide for Separated Parents: Putting Children first.
I felt the book was easy to read with useful advice tried and tested by the authors, supported by anecdotes from client's personal stories regarding relationship breakup, stages to... Read more
Published 2 months ago by Linda Hug
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent
The information in this book is right on the ball.
If your children or grandchildren are suffering, then get this book.
Published 5 months ago by SeanJ
5.0 out of 5 stars Useful, non-patronising advice
Not in US speak which is great, written for the British divorce process.
Really sage and manageable advice to help in a time where clear, positive guidance keeps you... Read more
Published 8 months ago by Speedreader
1.0 out of 5 stars My kids hate me
Worked on one of my kiddies but the other two wan't nothing to do with me (oops misread "children for "myself")hehe
Published 14 months ago by India 10
4.0 out of 5 stars nice book
nice book easy to read good advice - nothing too complicating i bought it not as a parent but as a grand parent whose son is going through a difficult separation and it helped me
Published on 26 July 2011 by em
4.0 out of 5 stars Read alongside FAMILY COURT HELL.
A good book I found, but also read Family Court HELL as that book goes inside the UK's worst ever child access case-if that does n't stop a parent wanting to obstruct their child's... Read more
Published on 7 Jun 2011 by plymouth dad.
2.0 out of 5 stars Too extreme
Some parents have difficulties considering children at all during the process of divorce and become self centered, this book proposes to parent to forget about themselves and live... Read more
Published on 17 Mar 2011 by M. Bongrand
3.0 out of 5 stars Its good guide for parents about to seperate...not for others
My husband and I have already divorced and so when I bought this book I was looking for a guide on what to do to move forward. Read more
Published on 22 Oct 2010 by Mehreen
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