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  • Paperback: 336 pages
  • Publisher: Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishing Group; Reprint edition (1 Jun. 2000)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 9780440509004
  • ISBN-13: 978-0440509004
  • ASIN: 0440509009
  • Product Dimensions: 15.6 x 2.5 x 23.3 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (36 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 123,089 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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17 of 17 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on 10 Jun. 1999
Format: Audio Cassette
I am a big fan of Gavin De Becker. I found "The Gift of Fear" helpful, intelligent and, often, frighteningly insightful. I have recommended it many times. That said, I am sad to report that I think it extremely misleading to present "Protecting The Gift" as a new book. Anecdotes aren't just warmed over, they're served up word for word. Whole chunks of chapters are identical to the first book, with only subjects changed to refer to parents and children rather than to adults. I rushed to buy this book and my advice is, if you have the first one, don't bother. As honorable as De Becker's mission seems to be, I'd say his editor and publisher are responsible for a pretty major consumer rip-off. Only the appendices seem new.
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on 23 May 1999
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As a retired federal law enforcement official and former instructor at the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center in Brunswick, Georgia, I am familiar with Gavin De Becker and his Mosaic systems. So it should be no surprise that I rated "Protecting The Gift" at 5-stars. This one picks up right where "The Gift of Fear" left off. I was especially interested in his chapter on children at school. During my federal career I was intimately involved in training workers in how to deal with violence in the workplace. I also worked part time in youth programs and before it became popular, I was involved in helping public schools develop safety programs. Presently I am working in the "trenches" in a Northern Virginia high school as a Safety and Security Specialist. I help take the kids off the bus, I'm with them all day and I help put them on the busses at the end of the day. Gavin De Becker wrote MY book when he wrote Protecting The Gift. It is that good! It is a book that should be REQUIRED reading for all school administrators and parents. The part of the book that really gave me a "charge" came on page 21 where De Becker says "If we do all we can to protect children and invest them with a deep belief that they are safe, they will be less afraid, and thus less likely to be violent toward others." I have seen this in action. I have over 35 years as a practitioner in keeping people safe. This book by De Becker is a "a must read."
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on 8 Jun. 1999
Format: Hardcover
I read Gavin's first book, "The Gift of Fear," when it was originally published. Ever since then, I had hoped that he would write another. It must've been kismet when I had turned on "Oprah", (daytime television is not something I normally do), and there he was discussing "Protecting the Gift."This book is absolutely priceless in the information it provides. Gavin's writing style is easy to comprehend and makes for a quick read. The real life incidents cited here are often moving, but more importantly, they are examples of everyday folks who proved to be the strongest of survivors. I commend those who bravely told their stories to Mr. de Becker so that others could learn.I only wish that someone had written this book many, many decades ago, so that close friends of mine and dear family members could have protected themselves against the violence and sexual abuse that they endured for so many years. Or those around them could have noticed the tell-tale signs and intervened. But now I have a copy and when the day comes for me to be a Mother, I intend to give MY gift this important one.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on 14 July 1999
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Those too timorous to face the subject of threats to children's safety will find genuine strength in this book. Somehow, Gavin de Becker overcame a devastatingly violent childhood to become an expert not only on accurately predicting violence, which he illustrates ingeniously, but on when and where to feel safe, and whom to trust and why. This network of safety is so much more valuable than just teaching paranoia, a big mistake in De Becker's view. The last of his 12 succinct points for safety, the warning not to let a potential abductor lure or threaten a child (or anyone) into going along to a second location more beneficial to the abductor is worth the price of the book. I'm glad I didn't miss Gavin de Becker's warm and wise insight into the roots and the prevention of violence.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on 26 Aug. 1999
Format: Hardcover
This book made me aware of just how much women ignore their own internal safety signals. I have purchased several copies to give to friends who live alone and have shared their insecurities with regard to being single women in today's violent environment. This is a must read!
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on 13 July 1999
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Gavin De Becker's new book is a valuable and important extension of his excellent "The Gift of Fear." I teach high school psychology and had my classes read TGOF, which proved to be an eye-opening, empowering tool for teenagers. "Protecting the Gift" expands on these ideas by specifically focusing on child and teenager safety. While I agree with some minor criticisms that the new book repeats some older material, the repeated material is worth hearing again, and the new book provides the most thoughtful and specific advice I have heard on how to talk to children about self-protection. As I new parent, I am grateful for De Becker's instructions. My own parents are wonderful, but as I suspect is true of the vast majority of families, they never talked to me as a child about how to recognize, prevent, and report sexual abuse--or how to trust my intuition and say no to adults in any number of questionable circumstances. By teaching us how to engage in this dialogue, De Becker is doing the public a great service!
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