Debbie Thurman has courageously stepped out into the muddy and dangerous waters of gay issues and Christian theology. In doing so, she accomplishes two important things. First, she uses a wealth of information to form an objective picture of the current state of American gay politics and Church politics. Secondly, and perhaps most importantly, she offers an intriguing solution for the Church. She challenges fundamentalist Christians to step up to the plate and openly discuss the "love that dares not speak its name,"--for the sake of those whose lives are neither 100% gay, nor 100% straight, and who secretly suffer in a world where gay politicians and hostile, judgmental Christians routinely offer only black-and-white life solutions. Thurman clearly "outs" the militant gay politicians and the most judgmental of Christian fundamentalists, and shows how their careless--but willful--ignorance and hostility toward bisexuals and those with nuanced sexual natures is clearly hurting a great number of people and forcing them into the shadows, by having to choose between being a "Christian" or being "gay." As the pages unfold, we also find that one of the main themes of her book becomes increasingly clear: to get Christians to conduct painful self-analysis and to seek God's help in changing attitudes that are neither loving nor compassionate, and to be willing to accept some ambiguity in the Christian world. She also suggests that those in the gay community who criticize people for choosing to alter their own sexual orientation toward heterosexuality, reveal a complete lack of understanding of the breadth of human sexuality and disrespect for each and every person's claim to existential liberty, in whatever form it may take. Thurman's book is courageous because she takes a stand that threatens the old ideologies of two very loud and opposing groups in today's culture: puritanical Christian fundamentalists and militant gay politicians. She strikes a tone of understanding that, unfortunately, will probably fall on a lot of deaf ears. Yet, if you listen, she carries a message that is actually ahead of its time and deserves to be both heard and respected.