There are many ways to get a sex education and one of the best is to follow the rich stream of erotica anthologies that Rachel Kramer Bussel puts together.
Her work ranges from erotic collections with such titles as Passion, Naked, Orgasmic and Fast Girls, to volumes, like Please, Sir: Erotic Stories of Female Submission (which follows Please Ma'am: Stories of Male Submission) that concentrate on a particular fetish or sexual sub-community.
Do people really do it on airplanes? Check out her collection of testimonies to The Mile High Club. Wondering how other people feel about oral sex? Try her Tasting Her or Tasting Him anthologies.
Rachel Kramer Bussel titles her Introduction to Please, Sir: Erotic Stories of Female Submission "Risk and Reward," an immediate and clear summary of why woman submissives like what they like. There have been copious articles by feminists (and others) talking about what they get out of kinky sex and deconstructing the world of sexual fantasy, but Bussel has a non-judgmental, informed approach. "It's about unlocking something within yourself so you can reach beyond your normal limits, exposing your body and soul in order to go somewhere you cannot get to alone."
With 22 stories by 22 writers, including a final story by the editor herself, the reader can dip into 22 experiences of submission. Rachel Kramer Bussel's story "Your Hand on My Neck" is an especially exciting example of risk (his hand squeezes her throat) and reward (she loses herself in the pleasure of belonging).
But it is good to start with the beginning of this book, where Shanna Germain's story "Anticipation" gives us one of the strongest depictions of the role of anticipation in this special world of hanky-panky. A woman sits at a computer cafe in Europe writing her lover in the States. Having been apart for six months, imagination and anticipation are their only fuels. As he arouses her through the screen, she says, "I have to bite back a quiet sound of want, swallow it down around my steaming coffee and hope that no one heard." He teases her with his plans for her when they are reunited. "I have to shift and cross my legs, the pulse of my clit beating hard inside my jeans. I'm not one of those women who can come just by rubbing their legs together, sadly. I need a hand on me, ideally his hand, hard and fast, spanking my ass or my clit, bringing me to that heated burn of orgasm."
"The Negotiation" by Remittance Girl, one of the more literary tales in the collection, takes on another basic aspect of kinky sex, an activity that emphasizes frank discussion and consent. Two elegantly suited businesspeople are negotiating a merger, but he tells her that her assets are as yet unevaluated. "In the interests of full disclosure" she pushes her chair back from the table so that she is in full view. "Slowly, she uncrossed her legs and parted them until the hem of her short skirt pulled taut against her thighs." Having examined the assets, he moves the metaphor into kinky gear. "You realize that a merger is not the only option for us? A buyout would suit us just as well... It would provide for a far more reliable corporate governance structure."
Wherever your sexual curiosity takes you, Rachel Kramer Bussel is sure to have gathered together the best erotic stories on the topic.