Considering this is the first book I have ever found written on anyone who has ever sexually self-abused I was impressed. I was a little disappointed that the author held back on details because I think it is healthy for the author and reader to purge those things from their system. It was a bit triggering and at times led me back to self-harming. Yet I won't have given up reading it for the world. I wish there was more information on this topic, because it is very prevalent. I have run many self-harm groups for many cities and this topic always seems to be the most shameful and guilt ridden. I found it intersting that the author did not have any rituals behind this behavior as most self-harmers do. I seem to, but at the same time I feel as she does . .. in the moment you take what you can and do what you have to.
I hope that this book helps people realize they are not alone AND counslors, drs, and therapists realize there is more happening in the world psychologically to people. Pain is pain. I think we all crave it to an extent because if we didn't we would not know what joy or happiness was. Yet it is the pain that destroys us that we seem to wrap around and hold on to, abuse. For me, it seems I always go back. I don't know why. It would be easier to be happy and go on with my life. Yet I keep going back again and again. WHY???? I guess that is the self-harming cycle. . . the more we ask the more we continue.
Congrats to the author for stepping out and sharing. I am in the process of getting a book together. A little more in depth though. But to say how you feel and to share emotion with the world and still show your face that is courage.
