I would highly reccommend this book (which makes a brilliant companion to 'she comes first') for those seeking some insight into sexuality and the male mind . It's not purely focused on 'how to' or numerous sex positions, although there are plenty of tips and ideas to try out, instead this book for me was about creating and maintaining a sexual connection- without any weird tantric techniques . Issues such as loss of desire and boredom are addressed but the focus is very much on the whole person and the couple, rather than just learning new techniques. Women are fully encouraged to take control of their pleasure and in doing so steer their man away from the male tendency to focus on penetration and a race towards orgasm and instead learn how to accept pleasure, to let go and follow the more female friendly arc of desire.