Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto [Paperback]

 

 

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The problem with this book is that inevitably it is more likely to be read by loners/introverts. With this in mind is it any wonder that the people who have read it don't feel any need to tell others about it. Being a loner myself I would recommend it to other loners who want to be understood or (more importantly) who want to understand themselves. This book is not arrogant or antisocial it just justifies the need for people to be by themselves. I think this manifesto is very relevant in this post-modern age of face to face feedback, plebeian politics, Richard & Judy cozy couch chattering and the general view that you have to have an opinion and you have to share it. this is the one occasion where I hope my review is the only one, that would be fitting.

At the high school I attended in the North of England, being called a 'loner' was a popular and powerful insult. It didn't mean 'She enjoys being alone alot', it meant 'She has no friends', and it would be chanted at you if you were EVER caught doing anything alone. I did have a (small) group of friends, but knew that if I was ever seperated from the pack for long, I risked being branded a 'loner', and possibly a witch, and end up being dunked in a pond to see if I sank. Probably the witch thing wouldn't have happened, but it was the North of England in the 90s - you never knew.

Anyway, about the book. If you have ever felt anti-social or 'faulty', just because you like being alone, I urge you to buy this book. It really makes you appreciate just how much we are still in an age of 'mob mentality', and how much pressure there is for everyone to be part of this 'mob'(as Rufus calls them). Loners really are treated like weirdos, freaks, and even worse, as potentially dangerous.

Because Loners are a misunderstood minority, the super sociable majority will always criticize, and try to 'cure' them. In the same way fundamentalist Christians try to 'cure' homosexuality. But 'The Loners' Manifesto' argues that we no longer need to hang around in tribes and clans, and spend every waking moment with others for the good of the community - 'The time when barns needed raising is over.' Rufus points out that being able to spend lots of time alone is one of the great products of thousands of years of civilization.

This book really validates the Loner, and argues so brilliantly about how great it is to be a Loner (and it is), that I feel better about myself just having read it. Not only that, it is extremely well-written, and often very funny... much of the last few days has been spent absorbed in this book, chortling happily to myself.

Contempt for 'non-loners' is quite strong in `The Loners' Manifesto', which struck me as at bit confrontational in the beginning. But now I just think it's funny, and tongue-in-cheek (like the title of the book). And besides, it's about time we fought back a bit. But obviously not together in any way. Separately like this, on the internet.

This is not a self-help book. It is a learned and entertaining collection of essays - each one about a different topic pertaining to Loners - how society percieves them, how they are portrayed, what they do, how they dress etc. Here are the chapter headings:

'village people' - Community
'listen to us' - Popular culture
'do you feel lucky?' - Film
'marlboro country' - Advertising
'i have to go now' - Friendship
'just catch me' - Love and Sex
'power surge' - Technology
'the diving bell' - Art
'singular glamour' - Literature
'jesus, mary and jennifer lopez' - Religion
'new disorder' - Sanity
'the l-word' - Crime
'bizarre as i wanna be' - Eccentricity
'the sleeve said' - Clothes
'don't go there' - Environment
'absolutely totally alone' - Solo Adventurers
'smiling bandits' - Childhood

Even if you don't buy this book, I urge to you keep an eye out for the word 'loner' in the press. You'll find that even though a loner is actually just someone who CHOOSES to be alone alot, the press will often refer to criminals as 'loners', even when they are not. A quick search on the BBC and I found two articles with the word 'loner' in the headline. Both people were clearly mentally deranged (a more likely reason for them having no friends), and one was a member of a gun club, and the Territorial Army - so not a loner then at all! Interestingly, Rufus suggests that the press is so quick to pounce on the word loner, because it appeals to society's desire to distance itself from criminals -in other words, a murderer was not a member of the army or 'one of us', he was of the other, he was a monster...A LONER.

So recognise the propaganda when you see it, and be proud of being a Loner! And amuse yourself by watching all the non-loners stick together like paperclips on a magnet, and do idiotic stuff together. I just wish I'd read this book when I was a teenager - I think it would've taken a lot of the pressure off.

NB - I'm just a jokin' about sociable-types. They aren't idiots - just different. Take the ranting in this book with a pinch of salt (as the author intends I'm sure) cos loners hating the super-sociable ones is just as bad as the other way around. Peace.

I bought this book a few months ago and have read it several times. At last we have someone speaking up for loners. Real loners I mean. I'm slightly different to Anneli in that I have to live alone. I would hate to be married, but enjoy the odd social occasion with people I really care about. I just love to shut the door after visitors have left.

This book made me so relieved to be able to reclaim the L word. Now I tell people when another criminal is mislabelled what the word really means. Thanks Anneli!

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2.0 out of 5 stars Us VS Them
I honestly didn't finish this book because it really got under my skin. The author seems bitterly focused on preaching a very 'Us VS Them' mentality, or as described in the book;... Read more

Published 28 days ago by J. Farrow

5.0 out of 5 stars Loners of the World - Don't Unite!
A brilliant polemic in defence of the Loner, the Solitary, who may not be a psycho serial killer, as the mass media (significant term) would have it. Read more

Published 1 month ago by Todd Cutler

2.0 out of 5 stars Disappointed
I had high hopes of this book, but found it rather frustrating to read. It's a bit bitter and twisted, taking a belligerent stance of 'loners' vs 'non-loners'. Read more

Published 12 months ago by Anne Power

3.0 out of 5 stars Interesting, but the author is unable to allow the 'live and let live' ideas she espouses to those different from herself
Like a couple of other reviewers, I found that what could have been an interesting and very readable book dismantling the often negative stereotype of 'the loner' was pretty well... Read more

Published 15 months ago by Lady Fancifull

5.0 out of 5 stars Explains so much.
A revelationary read for anyone who has ever been misunderstood or considered slightly odd for expressing their deep-seated need for space and generally not wishing to spend every... Read more

Published 23 months ago by Martin

5.0 out of 5 stars Thanks Anneli
This book helped me accept the way I am, and helped me to believe it doesn't matter that I am not "normal". I might even go so far as to say it saved my life. Read more

Published on 15 Dec 2009 by Dan276371

3.0 out of 5 stars Anyone for some vitriol
I like peace and quiet, I like to be close to nature and that sometimes takes me away from the company of others, I like to meditate, something that one must do alone, I like to... Read more

Published on 28 Jun 2009 by Foxylock

3.0 out of 5 stars Unnecessarily abrasive
I prefer to spend time alone; always have, and it's just a matter of feeling more comfortable that way, so I am absolutely baffled as to why it's something that needs to have... Read more

Published on 17 Feb 2009 by Anna

5.0 out of 5 stars Confidence booster for the individuals
A great book which made me feel confident about being different, apart from the part where she says I am a loser not a loner. Read more

Published on 31 Oct 2008 by Ewan J. Smart

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