on 14 January 2010
I hope that every parent gets a chance to read this book. The theory behind this book is that kids are often misunderstood and damaging relationships between parent and child can have profound and adverse long term effects on the child's self identity which in turn, if left unresolved, causes problematic relationships in the next generation. The authors include case studies and a section at the end of each chapter explaining the relevant scientific research as well as a bibliography. The chapters flow pleasantly from the issues that parents themselves may have accumulated during their own childhood, to the neurobiology of what happens in the developing mind in response to those significant events and relationships, and then towards the conclusion of how the parents' reactions and behaviours in the present impact the child.
Just as it say's on the cover, a deeper self understanding does indeed help you raise children who thrive. Parents can gain more confidence in themselves and become compassionate of their self-reflections. Children who feel more attuned to their caregivers, are more secure and healthy. I highly recommend it for you and your family's well-being.
on 2 September 2011
This wonderful book gives all the wisdom and insight an intelligent parent needs to understand two things - one, how they were parented themselves and their own life experiences influence how they parent their own child and secondly, how important the first three years of life are in laying down a healthy pattern of brain development in their child. Drawing on latest thinking in neuro-science and modern understandings of John Bowlby's 1950s Attachment Theory, Dan Siegel lays the foundations for high quality good enough parenting. As with other Americans in this field, Siegel is particularly good at explaining complex theory in straightforward language without trivialisation. Highly recommended.
on 29 May 2011
I have worked with children for years as a teacher, parent, have fostered and have adopted children. This is the most comprehensive isight I've found into what really happens in parent child interactions from a social, developmental and scientific perspective. I have learned more about myself (and myself in relation to my children and family) through this book than all my previous years of training and experience. This book has been a journey well worth undertaking and a chance to have a deeper understanding of self within the context of building secure attachments with children, but ultimately in forming any important relationships in life. Thoroughly recommend for anyone interested in improving the quality of their relationships.