-- e-mail from a male reader, 2010
"Just read Real Love Versus Romance...loved the ideas & compilation of ideas...great!! :) i agreed with many of the points of how romance has been commercialized for effect instead of portraying the actual depth of true romance...i roll my eyes at what is considered "love stories" nowadays...even being a guy (haha), i can appreciate a story that portrays real love & shows depth in what romance is (means)..."
-- P.H. / Chesapeake, OH, April 2012
"I've recently just finished the Fifty Shades trilogy. I have to say the
dynamics (or rather lack thereof?) of that relationship never seemed
wrong to me until I had a look at your essay on the book. And I guess I
never realized it was meant to be Twilight fanfiction. I'm a fan of
romance and love and all the whims that come with it. But, sadly, I've
been taught and it's been proven that these things don't exist. I wanted your
opinion on Fifty Shades. Once I found it, I understood more. You know...
It was an obsession and not really love."
-- K.S. (via email), Jan 2013
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Author's Note: "Passion, intensity, and intimacy turn me on. There's more to the erotic life than explicitness." ;) -- Jess C Scott
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The PLAY / BDSM Anthology by Jess C Scott is a collection of BDSM-themed contemporary short stories.
Jess's aims with the stories were to:
(1) explore the psychosexual themes of BDSM, and
(2) share with others an authentic depiction of the wide range of activities in the BDSM scene.
PLAY / BDSM: Walkthrough is a freebie mini compilation.
In this promotional eBook, Jess talks about the themes and inspirations behind her (non-pornographic BDSM-themed) project.
Genre: Education (Reference / Commentary)
Length: 5,800 Words
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TABLE OF CONTENTS:
Part A -- Fifty Shades of Twilight
Part B -- BDSM at jessINK
II. Excerpts + Commentaries:
1. Master & Servant ("intro" / first bdsm)
2. Switch (role identity / switches)
3. Rockstar (knife/edge play)
4. Teacher's Pet (May/December relationship)
5. The Velvet Rope (shibari/mild erotic asphyxiation)
III. PLAY (BDSM) Anthology
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EXCERPT [Introduction / Part I]:
. . .I've noticed that Fifty Shades of Grey seems to follow the same pattern of Twilight (virgin female protagonist with "sexual desires," who defines her entire sense of self-worth, self-identity and self-esteem according to "her man" who comes in the form of the "rich, handsome" piece that's part of the whole fairy tale syndrome).
That's fine for "commercial fluff."
But in the case of Twilight, it gets dangerous when mainstream tween fiction teaches girls to define themselves solely by their relationships.
What's Fifty Shades of Grey teaching women? That the holy trinity of obsession, low self-esteem, and abusive behavior packaged as "mommy porn" is the new love story?
As a person who's had a long-time interest in the psychosexual themes of both BDSM and the erotic life in general, I thought I'd share with others some of the deeper perspectives that aren't covered by a mainstream mass media that's only interested in reaping in profits via the next cash cow franchise.
No matter how much I might loathe many commercial franchises, I do care about the people that these franchises exploit (or "seek to appease," to put it more politely).
"Mommy porn" is just like any other type of porn--it's an adult fantasy that's designed to titillate and/or arouse the reader/customer (and generate profits for the supplier).
Is porn really how we should define our sex lives?