Alan Bates was a favourite actor of mine, and for this reason I put this book aside until I had time to thoroughly read it, and looked forward to doing so with anticipation. Reading through the first couple of chapters, I believed I was going to be disappointed, and wondered whether it was going to be worth continuing. It was a very slow start and there was a seeming lack in the writing, I thought, of the abundance of personality of the subject. But perseverance was rewarded, and at the conclusion the reader finds that a very complex and contradictory character has been portrayed in the best light possible mainly through the very personal memories of those who loved him most and best - his family - and the anecdotes of those with whom he worked. Alan Bates was a man who was much blessed, but who knew the tragedy of the untimely deaths of wife and son; who loved to listen to gossip, but was very reticent about his own life; he was a man who enjoyed the company of women, but who loved men - a fact that was partly to blame for the failure of his only marriage, which produced his much loved twin sons; he turned down many roles which might have brought him the fame most actors crave, and instead chose those that challenged his considerable abilities, and which ultimately gave him satisfaction and a multitude of awards and nominations for both stage and film work;he was a lover of love, but was never able to find or sustain a lasting relationship. It would appear there was something within him that pulled away, and perhaps it was that 'apartness' that allowed him the space to observe and to put those observations to use in his representations of particularly difficult and often unlikeable characters. And finally he was a very handsome man, who had all stripped away by illness at the end of his life, but which he bore with characteristic good humour. This book is well written and with respect for its subject, and within it I found a personalty who was immensely attractive and likeable. Human if you like. I highly recommend it.