Ellen, the protagonist in this story, begins as a hard-nosed, ambitious, selfish young woman who has grown up in the shadow of her academic father. By the end of the story she has developed into a caring, moving character with whom the reader empathises. Forced by her father to give up her job in order to care for her dying mother, Ellen goes through emotions ranging from bitterness and resentment to love and admiration for her suffering mother. Quindlen deals with the subject matter in a sensitive but upfront manner, confronting the fears harboured by many of us that faced with such a tragic situation we would not have the patience, courage or selflessness to care for our parents in their decline. Ellen learns a lot during this period, and not only about herself. When the inevitable happens, she realises that had she not accepted the task of caring for her mother, she would never had known her properly. She had always dismissed her mother's role as homemaker and wife, but she soon realises that there is so much more to her mother, a dimension and a strength which Ellen had never appreciated as a child. This is a sad but very powerful, thought-provoking book which is definitely worth reading. One piece of advice: READ THE BOOK BEFORE YOU SEE THE FILM - AND THEN DECIDE IF YOU WANT TO HAVE YOUR MEMORIES RUINED!!