on 21 April 2002
I would like to express my thanks and congratulations to Rachel Simmons for her excellent book 'Odd Girl Out - The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls'.This is a very important book that I believe every woman who has ever been 'aggressed' by other girls or women should read. We are given an insight into the lives of victims and bullies and the stark reality of the difficult choices faced by girls in social situations, especially at school. This book addresses a problem that is hardly ever discussed, yet can have a devastating effect on girls' lives which can haunt them into adulthood. The book is very well researched and contains a large number of actual interviews with girls in various schools. Very importantly Rachel Simmons gives guidance in the last chapter on how to deal with these difficult, but alarmingly common situations.
on 15 July 2014
I am still working my way through this detailed and comprehensive explanation of the way girls bully. For the first time I can help my daughter put the real word to some of the behaviour she receives (and lets face it, probably perpetrates.) Kids are repeatedly told that bullying is wrong and that the victim is not to blame so they know where they stand with that word- being able to identify non-physical behaviours as bullying and putting that label to them is incredibly empowering. I recommend this book to any mother bullied as a child and any parent of girls, along with the easier to access but very complementary Queen Bees and Wanabees.