Sally Donovan has written a warm, humorous, hard-hitting and compelling story about her own adoption journey. What she says will resonate with the majority of those who have adopted children from care. Ultimately this is an overwhelmingly positive celebration of the transformation that adoption can bring to society's most damaged and vulnerable children, but it also clearly sets out the realities of parenting children affected by early childhood abuse and neglect. Every adopter will be able to recognise some aspect of their own experiences in Sally's story and I would urge every professional working with adopted children -- including health visitors and teachers, as well as social workers - to read this so they know what understanding and support those parenting adopted children need. --Hugh Thornbery, Chief Executive, Adoption UK
This book should be compulsory reading for potential adoptive parents and for those professionals who touch their lives and pretend to understand what the whole experience is about. Sally Donovan's account touches upon the depth of despair, unbearable strain on a small family unit, incompetent or insensitive professionals, and fairly non-existent support. And yet it is full of optimism and hope for the human spirit. --Young Minds Magazine
As a post adoption social worker, who has also recently worked in a children in care team, this book struck a chord as to how our role impacts on children and adopters... I cannot recommend this book highly enough - it travels with me in my handbag and I sing its praises to whoever will listen! I urge everyone involved in adoption to read this book and to be inspired. --Community Care Children's Services blog
About the Author
Sally Donovan grew up in a small town in the west of England and gained a degree in English from Exeter University. She then spent ten years working in commercial management, which she abandoned to retrain for a new career in horticulture. She worked for several years in historic gardens, both gardening and carrying out research. In 2004, Sally and her husband Rob adopted two children from local authority care. In common with many children adopted from within the UK today, Sally and Rob's children had suffered neglect and abuse in their early lives. Together they have journeyed through the many challenges of building a family with children so profoundly impacted by their early trauma.