In his Living Teaching, G. I. Gurdjieff has high praises for women. In his Opus Magnum, Beelzebub's Tales to His Grandson, he writes about what he calls woman-mother and woman-female or, as he also calls her, woman-prostitute. The chief feature differentiating both types of women is the being-impulse of organic shame. In the woman-mother organic shame is an integral part of her being; in the woman-female organic shame has been atrophied. In this respect, it is very important to understand that Mr. Gurdjieff emphasized again and again that man and man alone is responsible for the atrophy of organic shame in women. It is man and man alone who prostitutes women. Behind the prostitution of women and teenagers we see today in this remote lunatic corner of the Universe called Planet Earth, this prostitution is the responsibility of man. Fathers, husbands, and brothers prostitute women. Mr. Gurdjieff was very emphatic about this fact of life. He was also very emphatic about the fact that:
Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than her organic shame.
Kristina is an example of a woman-mother. Her organic shame is always with her and by her. And her organic shame is reflected in each and every page of her book.
When Kristina writes Natural Birth, she writes from essence and being according to her own experience and understanding. The book opens with a wise quote from Mr. Gurdjieff for all women in Life:
"Woman gets soul with child. Not necessary have child, necessary readiness for child."
The quote sets the stage for the Preface of the Book with the interesting title: "Opening Your Mind to a Different View of Childbirth." From there, the author establishes the point of reference of the book: An uncompromised inner posture vis à vis our Life and our outer world. This is self-evident when she writes: "Our outer freedom will always be limited by the chance events that shape our life, but we can learn to maintain our inner freedom." In this short sentence is the secret to how we relate to Life. The flow is from our inner world towards our outer world. The striving is for inner freedom and the absence of any form of slavery. Then we can face all and everything we have to face, from childbirth for a woman to the responsibility of the man who has to care for the new born. The soon to be mother strives to attain the welfare of her child. She renounces to comfort and bears the pain of labors through conscious labors, as the author well points out, for the welfare and wellbeing of the new being she brings to life. Her readiness for child has now been fulfilled.
How the soon-to-be mother does it? How does she prepare for the great adventure of her life? How does she make herself available to the call of Nature?
In the eleven chapters of her book Kristina addresses the three fundamental questions of existence as existence relates to the matter of pregnancy and childbirth, namely, the Why, the What, and the How, going all the way from the preparation (The How), to the childbirth (The What) and extending to the spiritual birth (The Why).
The author engages the totality of Being by engaging the totality of woman in the process of pregnancy and childbirth. But that, although necessary, is not sufficient. Kristina is a woman who has been mother three times and who has practiced what she preaches. She even makes connections between the terrestrial mother and the cosmic mother as represented by the Virgin. In her book, man and woman are taken in their totality, in their body, soul, and spirit. This is not a mere ordinary book on pregnancy and birth; this is a book on the totality and wholeness of pregnancy and birth. A true holistic guide to pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding
Here now is my last and final take on the book as a man who has been married to the same woman for more than 40 years and has, like the author, three children. Here are my last words of this review:
This is a book that all men on the face of Earth should read, even more than women. Maybe a few more men, because there indeed is need for many more, would learn to respect women and to understand once and for all that they are the Fundamental Source of Life on Earth, and even beyond life here on Earth because as Goethe said in the last two lines of her poem Faust:
"It is the eternal feminine,
always attracting us to the higher."
Will Mesa
Flushing, New York, August 14, 2010