5.0 out of 5 stars
Most Helpful Thing Ever, 13 Mar 2009
This review is from: The National Childbirth Trust - Postnatal Depression (National Childbirth Trust Guides) (Paperback)
This book has to be the most sane, compassionate, understanding and helpful thing published on the thorny subject of postnatal depression (and it certainly beats a heck of a lot of non published sources of support too).
Welford, in typical sensitive, highly readable and occasionally humourous style, links together the voices of many women (and a few men too) in very varied circumstances. These snippets of stories provide empathy and understanding whilst sound referenced research backs them up. We learn of possible causes of PND as well as ways to survive it, and we receive hope for eventual recovery. The book is rounded off with the complete stories of four women and one man (the partner of one of the women.... and their versions of the same events are quite different), which is a nice touch.
One of the best things this book does is outline ways in which women can access support for themselves, sitting around waiting for someone to come to rescue you is not encouraged (though Welford is understanding of such a mindset which often accompanies depression - in one chapter she explains why sufferers of PND may prefer hiding at home to mixing with 'Chattering mums munching Flapjacks'). Lists of support agencies are tagged onto the back, phone numbers all probably out of date of course, but in the world of google that's not so much of a hindrance as it once was.
Welford doesn't mince her words, she talk about possible long term effects on the baby, and 'makes no apology'. Likewise, partners and wider family get a chapter. However since she explains the reasons for these effects she gives people a chance to attempt damage limitation, or to make good as the child grows older. Unlike other books she skilfully manages to avoid bashing the suffering mother over the head with guilt, instead you get the feeling that she is rooting for all women (and babies) and really wants to help you through this.
At 122 pages this book is just long enough to include some really good stuff without being too long to contemplate when you feel like the world is spinning uncontrollably around you and you haven't managed to get dressed and it's teatime. The manageable dip-in-and-out-of sections make it perfect for leaving in the loo, rather than reading it becoming one more mountain to climb when you're in no state to even drag yourself out of bed.
I wasn't referred to it during my experiences, I really wish I had been. Instead I have found it to be more helpful than anything else in sorting out what happened to me in my mind retrospectively. To anyone struggling now, do yourself a favour, get hold of a copy.
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