I am delighted this book has been re-published. In 1993 I walked past Waterstones, in Oxford Street (London) and saw a presentation display and thought "How could anyone write a book with such a ridiculous title?" Then I had the (mis)fortune to investigate a sexual harassment claim. What I learned about men and women, and particularly because of the way all the women labelled the man 'sexist' when clearly he was not, made me .... buy the book.
In my view, it remains the best book to introduce men to their own issues. What separates it from books like "The Manipulated Man" by Esther Villar or "No More Sex War" by Neil Lydon, is the impeccable research. Farrell offers nothing that he cannot back up with many credible sources of research.
After reading this, I bought his "Why Men Are The Way They Are" -- perhaps the best woman-friendly introduction on the same subject, sadly now out of print. Recently I also read his "Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say" and this led me to Christina Hoff Sommers (Who Stole Feminism?) who unmasks the way the feminist establishment's 'economy with the truth' protects its interest in much the same way as the UK Trade Union movement in the 60s/70s.
If you need any incentive to re-examine your views about men, consider just one snippet. Since Warren Farrell wrote "The Myth of Male Power" he has found 50 academic two-gender studies on domestic violence. He cannot find even one that concludes men are more violent than women. Most find that women are more (1.5 to 2 times) more violent than men in personal relationships. Don't believe me, or him - you can check this for yourself as he lists all 50 studies in an appendix to his latest book with a quick summary of the conclusions of each.
He is, therefore, absolutely justified in making us ask why - when there is so much reliable evidence that men are more abused in the home than women - are there not more refuges for men? The answer is that most men (and women) are yet to examine the level of discrimination men face. And if they have, they find through experience that challenging it brings conflict with powerful institutions that protect women as well as into direct conflict with women themselves. Only very brave, emotionally and financially secure men can do that and still have women friends at the end of the process.
My support for this book does not mean that I am anti-women. I recognise, as Farrell does, that feminism was a necessary pre-cursor to men examining their own role in society. I am, like he is, grateful to the many feminist-minded women who started discussing gender roles. But now there is a need - more than ever - to look again at what men and women do to each other in the name of 'love' so that we can begin fulfilling our good intentions to treat each other equally.
Go and buy this book - give it your friends, give it to your wife, your mother, your father, your son, your husband, your daughter. Perhaps then we can (within a generation) achieve what equity-feminists originally set out to do - create a world in which men and women can love each other in the way that emancipates both sexes.