Having very recently lost my son and struggling to go on with my own life, this book, so excellently and honestly written, showed me that the feelings I was having were perfectly normal in the circumstances. The book helped me through the early days following my son's funeral and gave me a tiny spark of hope for the future. Ten and a half weeks on I am still struggling but I have survived so far and there were many moments when I didn't think I could go on any longer. After my son's death I just wanted to be with him, now I at least want to be able to survive this horrendous happening. I have Iris Bolton to thank for helping me to be a survivor. I would recommend this book highly to any bereaved person.