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32 of 32 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
A biography of Alice Keppel and daughter Violet Trefusis, 25 Feb 1999
By A Customer
Diana Souhami manages to find a new side to the famous story of Violet and Vita as documented in Portrait of a Marriage and elsewhere. This is the story of two women both fascinating in their own right. By examining Violet's relationship with her mother, Alice Keppel, who was mistress of Edward VII and a very powerful woman the author manages to give a fascinating insight into the psychology of Violet who ultimately cuts a tragic figure. She seems to have had one truly passionate love in her life, namely Vita Sackville West, and never really to have recovered from the breakdownof this relationship. An excellent book and worth reading for the story of both mother and daughter.
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13 of 13 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
VIOLET TREFUSIS AND HER MOTHER: LOOKING FOR VIOLET AND FINDING HER HERE, 24 Jul 2007
This is a terrific read. I couldn't put the book down. It doesn't have Violet Keppel Trefusis (1894-1972) in the title but it's essentially about her. It's the first book I read beyond Vita Sackville-West's memoire of her affair with Violet in Nigel Nicolson's 'Portrait of a Marriage' and after watching the excellent BBC dramatisation. Like other books that focus on Violet including 'Portrait...' it comes startlingly alive when we get to the relationship with Sackville-West; this is the book's tour de force. This book gives the reader a much more comprehensive contextual understanding of this period including excellent portraits of all the main actors and Violet's extraordinary childhood, the hypocritical Edwardian mores and values that Violet found so offensive, and, the forces of powerful, beloved, trust fund holding mothers, especially, Alice Keppel. Violet was the product of one of Keppel's affairs probably before she met King Edward VII; Violet never knew who her true father was.
The book includes valuable quotes from published and unpublished sources. It firmly sides with Violet. Souhami appreciates Violet's vanquished quest for truth and honesty and makes her tragedy painfully palpable - we see the smash coming and know it will be terrible. This is Souhami's defense of Violet and her response to 'Portrait of a Marriage'. Vita on the other hand is not treated sympathetically.
Souhami rushes through Violet's later life offering selected vignettes of Violet as a troubled, deluded woman who was 'unaware of the figure she cut'. She says 'Her messiness, her chaos, her constant painting of her face, seemed to signal inner distress.' How far Violet might have been damaged by the emotional consequences of her relationship with Vita, her declassee status in (and alienation from) England, her isolation (because she was different in many ways and could not 'fit in'), and her sometimes violent marriage with Denys is unknown. Souhami provides no analysis but she provides information; readers have to make their own judgement.
It must have been hard to 'be' Violet especially in her later years; her armoured bombastic,'camp' public personality hid too much of the subtle intelligence and sensitivity of her true self. She was too colourful, too strident, too clever and she drew strong reactions. It was only when her friends and aquaintences learned posthumously of the details of her affair with Sackville-West that they could view Violet through a more complex lens, but even then views would be polarised. She was hard to truly understand; she had many faces and she wrapped herself up in half truths because they were better than her 'real' life.
Coincidentally, Violet went into physical decline after the death of Vita but lived, as ever, to her limit. She had always aged prematurely and she suffered badly from osteoporosis. She died, bravely, from a related 'mal-absorption' illness which literally starved her to death. Despite the different sadnesses that haunt the book, Souhami also has a good eye for comedy and the absurd and I laughed out loud on a few occasions. Violet dies at the end of the book. I found that I missed her terribly because the book made me love her despite her flaws; this is a compliment to Souhami as well as to Violet. This book sent me on a trove for more Violet (who is well worth reading) who I take my imaginary hat off to for surviving as well as she did.
Souhami's is the best overall record of Violet's life however I would recommend that it be read alongside 'Violet to Vita' (her letters) and her memoire 'Don't Look Around' from which the reader can judge for themselves the big gap between her early private and later public persona. 'Violet Trefusis' by Philippe Jullian and John Phillips, the Eve section of Vita Sackville-West's 'Challenge' and Violet's novels 'Broderie Anglaise' and 'Hunt the Slipper' are also valuable references.
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