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This book makes it all seem easier to bear.....
on 3 April 2001
This book is a real comfort to me. When I first read John Gray's first book a few years ago, I felt that he was asking women to accept unacceptable behaviour from men. Some years later, having read this book, which is tailored more to single people, I now accept that men truly are wired differently from women, and we often get hurt by things that they do because we take their actions personally, when all they're doing is following their own nature. Whilst girls might be advised to "treat 'm mean and keep 'm keen", at the end of the day, the game plan is to make a relationship, not win a battle; being "mean" hurts us too. John Gray preaches the wisdom of giving things time, of letting the man take the lead, of going with the flow. It deals with the difficult moments that leave women distracted and unhappy, such as what to do when he's not so certain he wants to see you, when he doesn't call etc. Somehow he makes it all seem as though it isn't a major tragedy;dating mishaps begin to seem as if they are less evidence of failure and more the result of a practical mismatch. If you accept John Gray's advice, in my experience everyone's happier. The only thing I would say is that I think there are some cultural differences between UK and US dating habits which make some of the advice hard to apply. Although John Gray advocates dating around until a man asks you to stop, I think most British men would assume that once you've got past the intial few dates that you won't be seeing anyone else, and most British women wouldn't want to do it. (Maybe I'm just old fashioned!).