Before I read Quentin's book, I lived my life as one whom he describes in the book; I ran about willy nilly, living others' lives as if they were my own, suffering from their disasters as much as they did. I frittered away enough personal energy to light several skyscrapers, and wondered why I was so very drained all the time. Taking an interest in others' lives, WITHOUT becoming emotionally involved, literally, saved my life. I have learned from Quentin that I can just listen to mere acquaintances, many of whom are drama addicts looking only for a forum, and then move on to what truly interests me. This is not being shallow; this is protecting yourself from those takers of the world, who, as Quentin says, "...are infinite and insatiable." This practice of tuning out the banal has allowed me to have the energy to devote to my husband, son and family, who deserve my energy.
I employ "Crisperanto" and the little white lie, nearly every day of my life. This has protected me and given others the satisfaction of being heard. Instead of standing on my head to avoid the takers of the world, I have learned to assertively and diplomatically put them off.
If I could, I would require that this book become part of school curriculums the world over. Members of the Senate, Congress, and the President should be coached, DAILY, in the art of "Crisperanto." Using "Crisperanto" could very well have prevented the "need" to go to war, at various and sundry times in our country's history.
I will continue to honor Quentin's memory by using "Manners from Heaven" as my bible.