How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You [Kindle Edition]

Most importantly I can report that the advice given in the book is highly effective. After reading it I went out that night and tried out the techniques. Within ten minutes of meeting an attractive women (who I had seen previously but never been confident enough to approach) I had her giggling and blushing and engrossed in conversation. 50 minutes later that women was asking me out on a date.

As well as the romantic applications of Lowndes' techniques there are also more general applications for those of us who work in sales and management. The methods described are very manipulative and incredibly insightful. The book will be a great boon to anyone seeking to improve inter-personal interaction let alone get a date for the night.

The parts on first apporaches, first meetings, first dates, controlling first impressions and body language of couples falling in love was very good. It was also insightful (for example 66% of relationships are initiated by women non-verbally), and that repeated looking/smiling were the most successful strategies for getting a man to initiate a conversation.

As the book progressed, however, I got less and less satisfied. Sometimes I got very irritated. She kept apologising for re-inforcing traditional gendered behaviours because "they work" but the problem with her claims is that this book is aimed at making someone fall in love, and not just about initial seduction. The behaviours she describes work only until you want the relationship to last on an equitable basis - what is on offer here is a handbook on seduction, plus recommendations on how to accelerate the end of the relationship once it gets serious. This is not a book about how to stay in love, only attract a lover.

For those interested in the latter - see the first 4 chapters of Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (Warren Farrell) - the communication skills in those 4 chapters are far better than anything on offer here.

This is the sort of book that you will read from cover to cover in a couple of days. It is also well organized so that you can dip into it for specific advice at particular stages of a potential encounter (e.g. social encounters where you are likely to meet potential new partners, first dates, etc.). Of course you can't make just anyone fall in love with you (the title of the book is somewhat misleading, but this is not Leil's fault - read the introduction). But what if you suspect that you've found someone who might be interested in you? How do you let that person know that you might also be interested in them? I'm the sort of person who hates the idea of "chatting someone up", so for me the techniques in this book are a real godsend. You won't find pick-up lines here. Instead, there is lots of sound advice on how to make a really good first impression. As Leil says, first impressions really count.

Leil's techniques really work! As an experiment, I decided to use some of them (e.g. tips for what to say/do when you first meet someone) at parties and other social encounters. Surprise, surprise! The reaction that I've had has been extremely encouraging - I can now sense that I've left a positive impression with a person whereas before I would be always doubting myself. I haven't had the chance to put her tips for the later stages of a potential romantic encounter into practice yet (because I haven't met that special someone yet), but I already feel that Leil's techniques have helped to improve my self-confidence. For this reason alone I would award this book five stars.

But there's an even more important reason why I rate it so highly. Towards the end of the book, Leil deals with the physical side of romantic encounters. I feel that, for a woman, she displays a remarkable understanding of the male psyche. I only wish that some of my previous girlfriends had read what she has written. It may seem obvious to men, but lots of women don't know this stuff! (OK, men are also ignoramuses when it comes to understanding women). Anyway, well done, Leil, on writing a really useful book. Maybe you'll write another one on how to turn a romantic encounter into a lifetime of love?