Thank you Emerson for writing this book. After almost 10 years of marriage and constant fighting and hate; this book was the answer to my fasting and prayers and tears. Bottom line is, I had no respect for my husband and treated him like he was an alien. My lack of respect and utter comtempt for my husband came from a reaction to his behaviour which in turn lead us onto the crazy circle, which simply spun out of control - divorce or suicide (murder was out of the question) seemed to be the only options left ...That was until God led me to this book .. it was as if I had finally been forgiven ....Its about three months since I bought this book and read it and I can tell you all that my husband and I have not had ONE quarell since ..... unbelievable. Has he changed ... yes and no. He still is who he is, with his annoying habits and personality, but all I do is keep my big mouth shut and then when I've calmed myself down; I speak respectfully to him and then I see the other side of him .. the side I never let out .. perhaps the side I feel in love with ... finally come out ... he is a good man and I am ashamed of myself ... I have been the evil evil wife ... and I didnt even know. I was just killing this man with no idea ... Now we are slowly rebuilding our relationship .. sometimes he is loving and it is worth it. I have read all the hundreds of reviews on amazon.com (there are more reviews there) about this book and not ONE; even the most negative ones, say that a man does not need respect. Women, men need this thing called respect, even if we dont get it, even if it annoys us - it doesnt matter ... they really need to be respected . full stop ... never shout (back) at your man. Thank you Emerson, may God bless you and your family.