This is really rewarding and practical book that I would recommend to any parent. I cam to it fresh from reading "Detoxing Childhood", a book that I found negative and patronising and that left me feeling inadequate and guilty. This book was such a relief. Its implicit starting point seems to be that parents know their own children best, that they have their best interests at heart, are fundamentally good and competent people, and will benefit from some practical suggestions. The writers seem to assume that families come in all shapes and sizes and work patterns etc and don't appear to have any interest in trying to make anyone feel bad, just in making positive suggestions. The basic premise is that children express and receive affection, primarily, on one of five ways. These are described in the initial chapters, with subsequent chapters on discipline, learning, anger, single parent families, and a final chapter on marriage. I have to admit that I was initially rather sceptical about the premise, but the astonishing fact is that it really seems to work. I have been able to identify the fact that my two older sons (it only works for the over 5s) communicate and receive affection best in different ways, and this really has made a difference to my interactions with them.
One thing you should be aware of if you are considering this book is that the writers are obviously committed Christians. However if (like me) you're not one yourself, I really would not be put off by this. It is not at all intrusive, and what comes across most strongly is the sense that both are very decent people.
I have found most parenting books to be a waste of time and money, either platitudinous (Steve Biddulph) or negative (Sue Palmer). But this one I would recommend.