This book is not the best choice for such a delicate matter. I had nowhere to turn, and somebody passed this on to me. They had 'read' it, but hadn't 'used' it (BIG difference). The beginning of the book was very good. It was VALIDATING to read about just how much other guys (and gals) like me, feel the way I do. It was also inspiring to know that 'guys like me' who aren't supposed to get their hearts broken (you know... studs :-)), are the most prone to suicide. Whether this is true or not... didn't matter. the point is I was validated for feeling aweful and feeling ashamed of myself on top of that. The book really takes a dive after about chapter two. The techniques here are out of date, old-fashioned, and hurtful to both parties. I never did get 'over' the person involved; not with this book anyway. Try out 'how to survive the loss of a love' instead by Bloomfield: Much better stuff.