Based on the rather Howard Stern-esque sounding title of this book I wasn't expecting too much. In fact I got it via inter-library loan as much as anything to check out the element of chastisement referred to by one reviewer below - do all woman-centered books need to do this I wondered? Anyway, before I had gotten even half way through it, I went ahead and ordered a copy from Amazon.com for my collection - it's that good. There are those who will say there are no secrets, it's all been said before, save your money, blah, blah blah. But what this book does, and very well I might add, is to promote a very respectful, partner-honoring mentality, mixed in with alot of honest upfront information on what works and what doesn't for many women. Yet it's not all strictly sexual (ie - genitally focused) so if you are looking for the magic button to get her motor running without fail you may be dissappointed. And I think it may be hard to take some of the information positively if you are not at least part way to realizing it on your own - stuff about how a prized part of your anatomy is a distant 4th on the list of your pleasure-giving assets. And I think this may well explain the rather mixed reviews the book is getting. But to be fair I don't think the chastisement, if that is what you want to call it, is particularly shrill. In every case the authors allow that "not all men believe 'X' or are like 'Y' and for some of you this may just be a review ...", so unless you really can't stomach the message, the delivery seems pretty tame and male friendly throughout (say in comparison to something like Rebecca Chalker's "Clitoral Truth").
Bottomline is this book is really quite good, much better than some of the negative reviews here indicate, and better than the cheesy title might suggest. While it is rather chatty and breezey in style it is literally dense with the sort of authentic information about women's sexuality that few men ever clearly receive. In the end what these authors promote amounts to nothing less than a radical rewrite of the model of heterosexual sexuality, one in which pleasure for the female partner isn't just faked or vicarious, and one unfortunately that has been a long time in coming (or coming back if you believe the goddess worshippers). Many other books have attempted to boil it all down to a few handy tricks, yet maybe that boiling down is exactly the problem. If there is a key message here it is this, "Hey guys, never forget that there is a woman attached to those genitals!" And if you can manage that (and still feel like having sex with her), then you are well on your way to a good thing. This book, as Jack Nicholson's character in "As Good As It Gets" says, makes me want to be a better man. And maybe that is the single best thing you can bring to a relationship - the genuine desire to connect and make your partner happy, whether it be with a relaxing massage or a wild night of swinging-from-the-chandelier passion. I heartily recommend this book to any man open to rethinking the cultural scripts around heterosexual love-play. Doing what it takes to truly let her feel like a woman, shouldn't make you any less of a man, even though alot of our cultural baggage seems to say just that.