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I Left My Husband for the Au Pair [Paperback]

Michele Macfarlane
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28 Jun 2014
I left my husband for the au pair is the fascinating autobiographical account of a British wife and mother whose life is turned upside down when she meets and falls in love with her au pair after an adventurous move to South Africa. Returning to her roots was always part of the plan but Michele never anticipated what might happen when she got there. Michele Macfarlane was born in South Africa in 1968 and moved to the UK when she was 14 years old. This memoir delves into the issues that are faced during the process of 'coming out' and explores the emotional landscape of lesbian women as they explore and come to terms with, their sexuality. Michele met her husband in Coventry where she attended drama college. At the age of 24, she became a full-time mother and home educator. After their third child was born, the happily married couple decided to embark on a new adventure that would take them to Cape Town, South Africa. Though the move was just what the family needed, caring for her children became more difficult when she was diagnosed with the degenerative eye disease, Retinitis Pigmentosa which causes tunnel vision, headaches and eventual blindness. As her visual impairment worsened with age, Michele appointed an au pair to assist with driving and childcare. She believed that falling madly in love, even when the act of loving itself risked everything, could happen to anyone - but she never expected it to happen to her...This book, bravely written with raw honesty, is a candid memoir of how two women found each other at an inopportune time in both of their lives. The author speaks directly and openly about her erotic self-disovery as she explains how their blossoming romance was shocking news to be received by their family and friends. Michele Macfarlane has been inspired by a number of different authors including Ben Elton, Melinda Furguson and Ali Smith. Author, Marianne Keyes has also been an inspiration to Michele's writing style with her ability to convey people's emotions with such vivid imagery. I left my husband for the au pair is a true story that will appeal to anyone intrigued by alternate sexual orientations and those that have experienced divorce, midlife-crisis and love. Michele is an advocate and ambassador for Retina South Africa. After successfully following her heart, Michele is now divorced from her husband but remains in Cape Town with her partner and four children.

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  • Paperback: 328 pages
  • Publisher: Matador (28 Jun 2014)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1783063734
  • ISBN-13: 978-1783063734
  • Product Dimensions: 21 x 13.6 x 2.8 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 3.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 146,830 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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5 of 6 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars A touching story (contains spoilers) 23 Jun 2014
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For the most part, I really enjoyed reading this book. The story is told through a first person account and via letters written to a friend. Great writing style & the book kept me engaged from start to end. A very honest, emotional and frank account of Michele's transition from a straight to a gay relationship, while still trying to keep friends and family happy. Some parts of the book - including the naming ceremony & family get togethers - were very moving. The only thing that grated slightly was that 2/3rds of the way through the book, I felt that lynette was increasingly being portrayed as the 'bad guy' in the relationship and it felt a bit unfair as she doesn't have her say in the book (maybe she did in editing?). It also feels like the beginning of the end at that point, and you can sort of guess how the relationship is likely to turn out in the long-term. All said and done, I think Michele's a great writer & very brave to share such an open account of her life. Can't wait to read the sequel!
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5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars 8 July 2014
By Dawn
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This book was brilliant, I couldn't put it down. cant wait for the next one.
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By Taylor
I was made aware of this book after an article in the Guardian and have to applaud the author for taking the brave step to write her story. It must have taken a lot of courage to reveal such an intimate journey.

The book uncompromisingly tells the story of the emotional roller-coaster of realizing that you’re gay, and need to leave a marriage to be true to yourself, and yet how living your own truth can, at first, be distressing to those around you, most especially the author’s husband, who is initially shattered and resentful through the process. And yet, as Macfarlane makes clear, her gay orientation is not a choice, and not something that can be switched off, denied, or unheeded. She discusses her attraction to her au pair in detail”: “The point is that nothing will stop me feeling the way I do about Lynette. I’m crazy about her. Of course I’ve asked myself over and over again how it’s possible at such a relatively late stage in my life to discover I’m a lesbian. And I don’t have an answer to that. There were many tell-tale signs ...and again, I think: how could I not have known?”

Macfarlane is brave in many ways – for agonising over her choices, and ultimately making the choice that will make her happy, a choice that embraces her new-found sexuality, a sexuality denied, suppressed and unable to find fulfilment with men. Brave too is Macfarlane’s choosing to reveal so many intimate details of the lesbian sex – descriptions which are quite graphic at times, and refreshingly so. There’s also a sense of fun and many scenes are infused with humour.

Macfarlane is also unsparing in her depiction of the emotional difficulties each experience in the book, and briefly looks at the role of therapy in helping to diffuse some of these problems.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Four Stars 13 July 2014
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Great read
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