In short, this book is fantastic, simply laid out, easily picked up/put down (for those busy parents who only have a snatch of time to read) and very clear in it's convictions. There are no hidden messages to confuse or trip you up, no crazy theories on feeding or sleep training. Dr Carlos tells it exactly how he sees it, simple. His message is: love your children, respect your children, show consideration for your children and they will grow up to treat others in the same way.
Being a first time mum i wanted to do everything right, i read lots of parenting books, baby whisperer, no cry sleep solution, i even perused Gina Ford. I found over time that none of these contained anything i could relate to in my own parenting style or wanted to implement. I was tired of hearing how babies manipulate their parents or should be ignored at night. This book is written in favour of children not parents. It explains in simple terms why children are how they are, why they want to spend every waking minute attached to their caregivers, why they need bonds, why they cry and has a chapter on other theories and what Dr Carlos thinks of them. It won't tell you how to get yourself into a routine, or what to feed your child, in fact it's not an instruction manual for parenting compared to most on the market. The main message is love, respect and consideration. In this day and age it's a shame someone had to write a book reminding parents to love their children but with the current western culture of 'getting back to your old life' following the birth of a child i'm glad this one was published.
Don't just read this if all other parenting books have failed you, read it because you love your children and know that you're doing a good job.