This is the first book I've read which truly subverts both the dominant hetero-normative and gay-rights agendas. Stuart's argument is highly original: she examines lesbian and gay experiences as a way of deepening our understanding of all relationships, rather than as a way of supporting more conventional claims for gay rights, which tend simply to mimic hetero-normative concepts (evident in particular in the debate over marriage). The author asks us to reconsider the apartheid between our "non-sexual" and our "sexual" relationships, and proposes a healthier and more inclusive Christian attitude of embodied love, affection, mutuality, and commitment over against our present dualistic and patriarchal bonds.