The best book I've read so far about making relationships work. The author shows that every relationship goes through hard times but it is by facing them head on with gentle honesty and openness that things can be resolved. He shows that if we have the courage to be present with both our innermost feelings at difficult times, we actually build a closer bond. It is about looking at self as well as understanding the other. He shows that conscious working at loving produces a stronger, more powerful and satisfactory relationship than a relationship which is only guided by initial attraction or aversion feelings. I very much recommend for anyone who wants to get away from the instant coffee relationship culture.