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Inside I'm Hurting: Practical Strategies for Supporting Children with Attachment Difficulties in Schools [Paperback]

Louise Bomber
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4 Jun 2007 1903269113 978-1903269114
Inside I' Hurting provides educational professionals with a much-needed classroom handbook of new strategies, practical tools and the confidence for supporting these children from an attachment perspective, thus promoting inclusion in the school system. Contents include: how attachment difficulties can affect a child's ability to learn; providing an 'additional attachment figure' in schools; the benefits and challenges of getting alongside children who have experienced trauma and loss; transitions during the school day; permanency and constancy; being explicit; regulating arousal levels; handling conflict; wondering aloud; lowering the effects of shame; working with transition from primary to secondary phase; developing effective home/school partnership (includes a photocopiable initial meeting prompt card); providing staff support; recommendations for future action.

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  • Paperback: 320 pages
  • Publisher: Worth Publishing (4 Jun 2007)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1903269113
  • ISBN-13: 978-1903269114
  • Product Dimensions: 17.7 x 24.7 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (24 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 9,725 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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'Everyone in education should have a copy of this book! It's down-to-earth, practical, and I've experienced first-hand how Lousie's ideas work with children in my school. It is rewarding to see children who previously seemed so preoccupied, settle to learn. --Jan Carballo BSc HLTA

About the Author

Louise Michelle Bomber is qualified as a teacher and therapist. She has worked with individual pupils, classes, whole school settings, teachers and support staff across the primary and secondary phases. She provides consultations and training for education, social services and health. Passionate about inclusion, her curiosity, training and experience have enabled her to get alongside vulneranble pupils in schools in creative ways, enabling them to amake the most of all that education has to offer.

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109 of 109 people found the following review helpful
`Inside I'm Hurting; Practical Strategies for Supporting Children with Attachment Difficulties in Schools' by Louise Bomber (Worth Publishing 2007) is an outstanding new book. The author is a teacher/therapist working in Brighton and Hove, UK and her passion is to support schools in becoming genuinely inclusive towards children who have experienced trauma and loss. One of the achievements of this book is that it manages to write about this work without taking a `medical model' approach to the behaviour of children who have had these experiences. As the author says - `we don't want children to acquire more labels'. She does however describe the children she writes about as having `attachment difficulties' but crucially, notes that `their difficulties stem from relationship' and it therefore follows that modification of their patterns of relating can also come from relationship. This is a very different discourse from that which sees these children as having various types of `attachment disorder' each requiring it's own type of `treatment'. This shift of perspective allows the author to then write about how the child who has experienced trauma and loss is likely to view the world and the people in it and to give those working with such children a wealth of insights and clues into what kind of person they should best try to be to meet that child's needs and help them learn and practice new ways of being in the world. Louise Bomber achieves this with practical clarity and a complete absence of jargon - her translation of the psychotherapeutic terms `transference' and `counter transference' into everyday language are the best I have ever read. Each chapter is full of quotes from teachers and support assistants who have used her insights and, within each of the key themes she explores, there are examples of useful scripts adults might use in difficult to manage situations
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Louise Bomber's book is an insightful, inspirational, clear and practical manual which entirely fulfils its aims. Born out of the knowledge and skill acquired through her experiences as both a teacher and a therapist, as well as a genuine desire to improve the educational, social and emotional experiences, of children who suffer Attachment Difficulties, she emphasises throughout that all of us involved in their support must be `gentle with our strength, strong with our gentleness.' She stresses the need for open , regular communication and non-judgemental collaborative support between all the adults involved in supporting and nurturing these children.

Her style of writing is an echo of her watchword for how to handle this group of children: She metaphorically takes the reader's hand in a way which inspires and fuels hope in being able to make a positive difference to the lives of children who have suffered trauma and abuse, whilst at the same time being realistic about the demands and stress which can occur in being the Key Adult for one of these children.

After an explanation of the three main types of Attachment Disorder and their possible causes, she takes the reader, step by step, through practical ways of supporting these children during all the key aspects of school, explaining when and why these children may experience difficulties. She includes the day to day access of the curriculum and gives a lot of emphasis to the all important beginning of the day, particular aspects of the school year, year to year transitions, including primary to secondary, as well as examining key events in the child's personal life in terms of their impact on potential learning and the additional preparation needed to support the child at these times.
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33 of 33 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars EXcellent Book 19 July 2007
This book is excellent. I highly recommend it for anyone working with children with attachment difficulties. It is very easy to read, gives good insight into attachement difficulties and provides excellent practical advice
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5.0 out of 5 stars Essential reading for parents and school staff 23 Dec 2009
By Bun bun
This is an excellent book giving real insight into the issues that can surround attachment difficulties. I used up more than 1 highlighter pen going through it picking out the information I found relevant to pass on to my daughter's teachers. The school is now purchasing its own copy and I would recommend it without reservation.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Practical, helpful & authoritative 22 Feb 2010
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Strategies for school and home to support children with 'attachment difficulties' - which includes those who are suffering chaotic homes as well as those who are under the supervision of the care system. This book is written for teachers but contains great advice for parents, not least in what to look for/avoid in a school and how to support teachers.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars fantastic read 3 Jan 2010
This book is a must for anyone working in our schools it is easily accessible practical advice to support working with children and young people who have difficulties.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars A basic book 17 Aug 2013
By kozee
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Some of the sections are not as detailed as I'd hoped,
A good basic starter text with some useful pointers
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Great book for schools 3 Feb 2011
A Kid's Review
This book was recommended to me and I'm not disappointed by it. I had ordered it through Prime, sadly it didn't arrive within the stated timescale, I had to contact Amazon about this, the book was still delayed, and arrived a day too late for its purpose, but none the less it is a good book.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
An amazing book, everyone in schools should read.
Published 9 days ago by carole barnes
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Fabulous book for understanding and helping children with difficult lives.
Published 27 days ago by MRS ANNE PIKE
5.0 out of 5 stars Inside I'm Hurting
I can recommend this excellent book with its good practical advice on how to care for children with attachment disorders.
Published 1 month ago by Peter Augustine
2.0 out of 5 stars not what i thought
bought with a specific area for research in mind but did not prove to be of any use as the material wasn't what was required.
Published 2 months ago by Kathryn penrose
5.0 out of 5 stars Inside I'm Hurting
As a teacher of children with SEBDs I had heard that this would be a very helpful book and it was so interesting I took it on holiday - though it does not in anyway make for... Read more
Published 2 months ago by Diane Masterson
5.0 out of 5 stars Important read
Excellent read for any professional serious about helping children and young people. A purposeful and practical view of needs and strategies.
Published 3 months ago by J.Clapham
5.0 out of 5 stars good information
clear with good information, explainations, and stratergies. good for any proffessional working with children, not just school staff. would recommend it
Published 6 months ago by Amanda Starkey
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent approach to attachment theories-Im hurting inside
excellent book on how to help your own child or another with behavioral issues. Various approaches to the root situation the child is in with ref to attachment theories --... Read more
Published 7 months ago by Glynis Reeves
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent and useful
Very useful for any professional or parent working with children with attachment difficulties
Brilliant insight and well written. Many Thanks
Published 8 months ago by MRS C PANICZEW
5.0 out of 5 stars great book
this book will help teachers and carers navigate day to day issues with these children.Louise Bomber knows what she is talking about,she has studied this area for a long time.
Published 16 months ago by paul worsman
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