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In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People [Paperback]

George K., Jr. Simon
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Sep 1996
Whether it's your mate, your child, your boss, or a co-worker, if they know how to get the better of you and look good at the same time, you are being skillfully manipulated. To stop being a victim, you have to know how to spot these "wolves in sheep's clothing." Using case studies, Dr. Simon reveals the tactics manipulators like to use and tells you how to respond to them.

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  • Paperback: 140 pages
  • Publisher: A. J. Christopher & Company (Sep 1996)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 096516960X
  • ISBN-13: 978-0965169608
  • Product Dimensions: 1.1 x 13.1 x 20.6 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 287,091 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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George K. Simon, Jr. received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Texas Tech University. He has studied manipulators and their victims for over 10 years and given numerous workshops and seminars on covert- aggressive personalities. Dr. Simon consults to various agencies and institutions and maintains a private practice.

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110 of 112 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Very Helpful and Insightful 22 Jun 2007
By Aeneas
A great little book that in a light and clear way outlines the different kinds of manipulative people and the strategies that are most commonly used by the manipulators. It also gives steps and strategies of how to deal with manipulators.

Mr Simon outlines the flaws with classical psychological theories in regard to the issue of manipulative people and why we need to move on.

He writes: "...we have been pre-programmed to believe that people only exhibit problem behaviours when they're "troubled" inside or anxious about something. We've have also been taught that people aggress only when they're attacked in some way. So even when our gut tells us that somebody is attacking us and for no good reason, or merely trying to overpower us, we don't readily accept the notions. We usually start to wonder what's bothering the person so badly "underneath it all" that's making them act in such a disturbing way....We almost never think that the person is simply fighting to get something they want, to have their way with us, or gain the upper hand."

The book is full of examples to illustrate what is being explained and on top of it there is a chapter called "The manipulative child".

Working in a school with children I found this chapter most helpful and would recommend this book to any parent, though it is equally recommendable to anyone as we all face manipulative people in daily interactions.
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30 of 30 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars helpful but... 22 April 2009
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This is a very helpful book in identifying the various types of manipulation that exist - indeed much of the book is devoted to the various types that exist in all people. But, it's a bit thin on really getting to the bottom of the problem, a problem that the book itself highlights....which is to strengthen your own self. For that, and for a better understanding and complete strategy read, "When I say No, I feel Guilty" by Manuel J Smith. I think that the When I say no book is much more positive, and gives a very extensive 10 Bill of Rights to live by, keeping your focus on yourself, instead of your manipulator. The two books could work well together. In Sheeps Clothing as a good first step, and then WISN,IFG as the second and rest of your life final step.
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84 of 87 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars So useful I keep referring back to it 23 April 2007
This is a fairly short book, the edition I've got runs to just under 150 pages. but what a book! It very clearly goes through all the aspect of covert aggression, and how to deal with it. It is amazing how much simpler it is to deal with manipulation when you can instantly see what covert techniques are being used on you.

Most manipulations are so succesful purely because the victim isn't even aware of what is happening, he just feels that something isn't right but goes along with it anyway. The classic ones being the guilt trip and the pity trip - both are sure-fire indicators that you are being manipulated via your emotions. It also covers more obvious aspects of bullying behaviour and how to turn the situation around without being sucked into the dynamic.

A fantastic little book that can completely turn your life around. It is written in very clear language, very easy to understand and doesn't require you to have a degree in psychology to get the most out of it. I have to keep lending it out to my friends and family as it is so useful!
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45 of 47 people found the following review helpful
Pithy and often funny, I have recommended this book to every one I know and bought extra copies for my kids when they went out into the work world. George Simon takes the bluster and obfustication of overbearing/weasely bosses, nasty neighbors, obnoxious coworkers and annoying relatives and boils it down to show you the simple psychological strategies being used to impose on your patience, good will, or even wallet.

Once you understand the rules and especially the *mindset* of these people, you are in a position to defend yourself with a minimum of energy expended. No in-depth analysis here, just the basic tools for dealing with difficult people and coming out, not necessarily "on top", but with workable solutions that most times leave everyone satisfied. Wished I'd had this for dealing with the in-laws the first fifteen years. Highly Recommended.
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51 of 54 people found the following review helpful
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Having read dozens (probably hundreds) of 'How to' guides on life, love and work - THIS BOOK STANDS OUT. It is a particularly superb resource for those being bullied (by committee members, colleagues, boss, partner, whomever!)The author emphasises how to recognise your own unrealistic expectations, how you may unknowlingly become attractive to manipulators and how to handle the situation. I also recommend 'Take the bully by the horns' by Sam Horn.
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A must read if you are in doubt.... 7 Feb 2010
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This is a little book about 1cm thick. It's not the easiest style of writing to read, as lots of blocks of text. But once you get into it, and it's messages OMG it is REALLY REALLY HELPFUL. If you are in any doubt that you are dealing with manipulative people then I suggest you get this book, or even if you want to be able to spot them.

It's an excellent book, I felt I really understand and can spot these people now I have read the types of things and behaviours they can do. Buy it!
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent, Buy it 3 Jun 2008
This is a great, thought provoking, practical book. Can't recommend it highly enough as I have found it really useful.
People manipulate you because they want to, it is that simple.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A Real Eye opener
People are predators, have no doubt of it, when you finalily realise that one well concealed fact you begin to understand what is going on around you...
Published 6 months ago by Jane Brooke
5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful & Practical
For me, this was the book that finally made it 'click' -that it doesn't matter why manipulative people behave the way they do the simple fact is that it is unacceptable. Read more
Published on 22 July 2010 by PTC
4.0 out of 5 stars Very simple and helpful
I read this book and found it very helpful so I lent it to a friend. She has read it once and is now re-reading it to help her understand her work colleague's behaviour. Read more
Published on 13 Jan 2010 by PondLife
3.0 out of 5 stars much better on second reading
I enjoyed this book more on the second and third reading. the book to me is really about manipulative people and he is very good at describing their tricks. Read more
Published on 2 Sep 2009 by minty
5.0 out of 5 stars the best book on emotional manipulation...
the best book i have read on emotional manipulation... 150 pages that gets straight to the point...
Published on 4 Feb 2009 by poor man
4.0 out of 5 stars excellent little book to pass round
This book is a bit short but packed with some very good advice.

I have returned to this book recently after reading quite a bit about Stalin. Read more
Published on 2 April 2008 by Sally Wilton
5.0 out of 5 stars Essential defense in today's society
Have you ever encountered someone who often makes you feel something is "not right" after parting? Some part of you seems to be telling that you have been given the short end of... Read more
Published on 20 Dec 2007 by Phung Minh Hoang
5.0 out of 5 stars Very Informative
This book is invaluable for learning about manipulative people. It tells, in easy to understand language, how to spot and respond to those who are out to manipulate you. Read more
Published on 8 Nov 2007 by Lynne Grey
5.0 out of 5 stars Very Good Read
I found this book to be a great, easy to follow overview of how to deal with and identify manipulative people. Read more
Published on 30 Oct 2007 by Susan W
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