This is not an easy book to read...not because the contents are complicated to follow; quite the contrary. it is clearly written and easy to absorb.But what the book challenges you to do, is not easy. You must sit back, alone and re-evaluate everything you ever believed - or were led to believe - was "true" about you and your behaviour, in relationships. Whether you are alone, looking for a relationship or in one, this will make you sit up and take notice. I am in a long term relationship. I have been married to the same man for 20 years, but it's my second marriage. But after having read this book, I see my husband - and myself - in a whole, new light. Our relationship is stronger, more understanding and freer than I have ever known it. We feel liberated and as if we are starting over. By reading this book, and following through, taking the time to digest and absorb what Iyanla says, and accepting your need to change,it is possible to start life anew, with fresh ideas and a new big heart! Go for it!!