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If You Had Controlling Parents: How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in the World (Paperback)

by Dan Neuharth (Author)

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Paperback: 272 pages
Publisher: HarperPerennial; 1st Cliff Street Books/HarperPerennial Ed edition (Oct 1999)
Language English
ISBN-10: 0060929324
ISBN-13: 978-0060929329
Product Dimensions: 20.7 x 13.6 x 1.7 cm

Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars See all reviews (14 customer reviews)

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A guide delineates eight types of parents whose need for control can harm their children and offers suggestions for breaking that destructive cycle of control and healing life-negating wounds.

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32 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Tremendously healing & thought-provoking book!, 9 Feb 1999

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This review is from: If You Had Controlling Parents: How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in the World (Hardcover)

So many self-help books are badly written, offering warmed-over rehashes of what's been said many times, or giving simplistic "Dr. Laura"-type answers to complex problems. IF YOU HAD CONTROLLING PARENTS is one of the most original, well-written, thought-provoking books I have read. This book provides the most penetrating understanding of dysfunctional family dynamics I've ever seen. I understand my controlling mother and "strong, silent" father on so many more levels than I thought possible after reading this book. The author gives many examples, exercises and questions, all of which encourage you to think for yourself -- which is particularly good after a lifetime of being told how to think.

While many self-help books help you understand a life problem but offer few tools to solve it, nearly half of this book is dedicated to offering wonderfully original ways of both healing and problem solving -- giving readers many ways to grow instead of some simple-minded pat formula.

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5.0 out of 5 stars BRILLIANT AND SPOT ON, 16 Mar 2004

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I could not put the book down, absolutley spot on! I wish I had read this book years ago. To be honest I read toxic parents (which is excellent) years ago but did not action, I was too afraid. After reading this book I am going to change things in my life, I do not feel afraid, it has given me more confidence, a must read for any adult who is controlled by their parents, I feel that I am not alone, I was not the only person who had controlling parents. I am in my 40's and have broken the chain with my children. I hightly recomment this book!

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20 of 21 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars It made the difference between life and death (literally), 8 Nov 1998

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This review is from: If You Had Controlling Parents: How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in the World (Hardcover)

This book did not save my life: it GAVE me a life, for the first time in 38 years. I will be 39 next month; what an uncommon birthday gift Dr. Neuharth has given me. I read his book in fewer than two days; it prevented me from committing suicide. This is an extraordinary step for me. I am a Puerto Rican Jew with no brothers or sisters or a single person whom I ever thought of as a friend; I am a person who was different physically and socially, who was ostracized by society and dominated by both parents, to the point that at the age of 24, I still had only a 10:00 pm curfew. Dr. Neuharth's book enlightened me so deeply and thoroughly, I literally shook from excitement, as if a baby was being born. I was being born as I read his book. Now I know that I am somebody, after all. I'm not second-rate, as I always "knew" all my "life". I NOW have life. I cried so hard and uncontrollably upon reading that I really DO have brothers and sisters: 15 MILLION adults who are just like me! I'm not alone, after all. For the first time in 38 years, I believe in God. His name is Dan Neuharth. Because God gives life, and Dr. Neuharth gave life to me.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Absolutely fantastic - changed my life...
This book is absolutely fantastic - it literally changed my life... I really didn't know if a book like this could help that much, but after reading it, it has helped me to... Read more

Published 8 months ago by RJ

2.0 out of 5 stars Not as helpful as I expected!
I really dislike reading self help books that are filled with case stories of people to illustrate the content of the chapter. Read more

Published 15 months ago by L. Mateus

1.0 out of 5 stars Instead of resolving bitterness, the book provokes anger
I bought the book in the hopes of making peace with my past. Instead, I found myself more angry than ever about what happened to me. Read more

Published on 8 Feb 1999

4.0 out of 5 stars Good overview of issues - but buy Toxic Parents first
I would recommend this book to those that have problems from childhood or those that experience acting out behaviors like anger, controlling behaviors, etc. Read more

Published on 3 Jan 1999

5.0 out of 5 stars I wish this book had been written 15 years ago.
I have been dealing with the damage caused by my controlling parents since I was 18. All my friends use to tell me, " It's in the past, get over it". Read more

Published on 10 Oct 1998

5.0 out of 5 stars I loved this book!
I did not personally grow up controlled, but my husband had the most controlling father and mother on the planet. Read more

Published on 30 Sep 1998

5.0 out of 5 stars Written with compassion, it supports and validates readers
Dr. Neuharth's book is not, as the title might suggest, a diatribe against parents, nor does it suggest turning against one's parents. Read more

Published on 27 Sep 1998

2.0 out of 5 stars Not very helpful
I found this book disappointing -- I got a copy, went through it quickly, and shipped it right back. Read more

Published on 23 Sep 1998

5.0 out of 5 stars Terrific book
I can't believe no one has written this until now! Maybe the honor-your-father-and-mother injunctions of the bible and society go deeper than we think. I loved this book. Read more

Published on 22 Sep 1998

5.0 out of 5 stars A real eye-opener!
I knew I had controllers for parents (especially my Mom) but I didn't realize how thoroughly their control has affected me until I read this book. Read more

Published on 19 Sep 1998

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