- Paperback: 350 pages
- Publisher: McGraw-Hill Contemporary; 2 edition (19 Sep 2003)
- Language English
- ISBN-10: 007141858X
- ISBN-13: 978-0071418584
- Product Dimensions: 21 x 14 x 2.7 cm
- Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars See all reviews (84 customer reviews)
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 261,203 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Leil Lowndes' How to Talk to Anyone offers 101 time-tested hints, tips, and techniques for confidently communicating with others. A bestselling author and renowned communications consultant, Lowndes focuses on ice-breaking skills and communication techniques that are proven successful when making a positive first impression, establishing instant rapport and credibility, and more. Packeed with basic, no-nonsense advice and solid research evidence about which techniques work best in which areas, How to Talk to Anyone show readers how to:
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""You'll not only break the ice, you'll melt it away with your new skills."" -- Larry King
""The lost art of verbal communication may be revitalized by Leil Lowndes."" -- Harvey McKay, author of ""How to Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive""
What is that magic quality makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, their lover!) In business, they rise swiftly to the top of the corporate ladder. What is their "Midas touch?"
What it boils down to is a more skillful way of dealing with people.
The author has spent her career teaching people how to communicate for success. In her book "How to Talk to Anyone" (Contemporary Books, October 2003) Lowndes offers 92 easy and effective sure-fire success techniques-- she takes the reader from first meeting all the way up to sophisticated techniques used by the big winners in life. In this information-packed book you'll find: 9 ways to make a dynamite first impression14 ways to master small talk, "big talk," and body language14 ways to walk and talk like a VIP or celebrity6 ways to sound like an insider in any crowd7 ways to establish deep subliminal rapport with anyone9 ways to feed someone's ego (and know when NOT to!)11 ways to make your phone a powerful communications tool15 ways to work a party like a politician works a room7 ways to talk with tigers and not get eaten alive
In her trademark entertaining and straight-shooting style, Leil gives the techniques catchy names so you'll remember them when you really need them, including: "Rubberneck the Room," "Be a Copyclass," "Come Hither Hands," "Bare Their Hot Button," "The Great Scorecard in the Sky," and "Play the Tombstone Game," for big success in your social life, romance, and business.
"How to Talk to Anyone," which is an update of her popular book, "Talking the Winner's Way" (see the 5-star reviews of the latter) is based on solid research about techniques that work!
By the way, don't confuse "How to Talk to Anyone" with one of Leil's previous books, "How to Talk to Anybody About Anything." This one is completely different!
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73 of 74 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
Unfortunately, this book didn't work for me on the whole. Well that's not fair, I did get some useful tips, particularly in part 2: "What Do I Say After I Say Hello?", where Ms. Lowndes encourages us to learn how to make small talk by preparing better, more detailed introductions of our jobs, lives, home towns etc. So I've given it 2 stars instead of 1.
However, I very nearly didn't make it to part 2, because part 1 was frankly sickening. For example, Technique 1: The Flooding Smile - "look at the other person's face. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes." This strikes me as plain sham. Then we have Sticky Eyes, Epoxy Eyes, and some strange muscle exercise that involves imagining you are hanging by the teeth from a door as you go under it (it's supposed to make you smile more widely). I tried it and scared my son's girlfriend who started calling me Dracula behind my back!
I admit I didn't get to the end of the book. There are 92 tips in it, but I gave up at no. 59, which she calls The Tombstone Game: "Ask the important people in your life what they would like engraved on their tombstone. Then later, when the moment is right to say "I love you" fill the blanks with the very words they gave you earlier."
The words insincere, counterfeit, bogus, fake and sham spring to mind.
However, I very nearly didn't make it to part 2, because part 1 was frankly sickening. For example, Technique 1: The Flooding Smile - "look at the other person's face. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes." This strikes me as plain sham. Then we have Sticky Eyes, Epoxy Eyes, and some strange muscle exercise that involves imagining you are hanging by the teeth from a door as you go under it (it's supposed to make you smile more widely). I tried it and scared my son's girlfriend who started calling me Dracula behind my back!
I admit I didn't get to the end of the book. There are 92 tips in it, but I gave up at no. 59, which she calls The Tombstone Game: "Ask the important people in your life what they would like engraved on their tombstone. Then later, when the moment is right to say "I love you" fill the blanks with the very words they gave you earlier."
The words insincere, counterfeit, bogus, fake and sham spring to mind.
319 of 349 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
Hi
I found this book interesting; I've tried many of the techniques and found that they work very well.
Unfortunately, the author has little genuine warmth, empathy or interest in other people.
One example (not untypical). The authors 'good friend' had started a business and Leil (the author) introduced her to an important - powerful - contact. The author's friend 'messed up' when she contacted the 'important person' - she didn't have a pen and asked him to wait a few minutes whilst she got one. The author's reaction 'that's the last time I'll introduce her to anyone'. Jeez - I'm glad she's not my 'good friend'.
I thoroughly recommend it to anybody who wants to communicate more effectively i.e. get what they want out of other people - respect, friendship, business, a job, etc.
However don't let it turn you into a self-centered, manipulative, jerk.
Remember that communications techniques can help in one off relationships (e.g. a job interview, sales call), can help lubricate new relationships (a first date), and increase your social standing (working a party, or social engagement).
They can't help in long-term relationships (when a date becomes your girl/guy, on the job, parenting, etc.) For that you need to invest in your character.
Happy reading
Afam Edozie
233 of 263 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
Dont get me wrong, this is a really useful book with lots of great ideas, all backed up with research into human nature.
A lot of the stuff is common sense, but it is useful to have it confirmed so that the ideas are in the forefront of your mind when you are next socially climbing. (If thats what you want to do!!). However this is really a book for those that already have quite competent social skills and are socially confident. It is also rather aimed at the American personality.
It is easy and enjoyable to read and reeks of optimism.
But it is not a lesson in the basic skills for those that are shy to talk to others, it is more about the fine-tuning of existing communication skills.
A lot of the stuff is common sense, but it is useful to have it confirmed so that the ideas are in the forefront of your mind when you are next socially climbing. (If thats what you want to do!!). However this is really a book for those that already have quite competent social skills and are socially confident. It is also rather aimed at the American personality.
It is easy and enjoyable to read and reeks of optimism.
But it is not a lesson in the basic skills for those that are shy to talk to others, it is more about the fine-tuning of existing communication skills.
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I have to say I was really looking forward to reading this book. I think everyone would like to have a few more social tools in their toolbox. Read more
Published 11 days ago by Jonni O.
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great book commonsence really. at this point in my life im looking for that perfect job so im open to all advice and if it helps i let you now
Published 2 months ago by teresa
vacuous and insincere
this book is just irritating and a waste of time. Some of the advice in the book says that you shouldn't smile at people immediately when you see them. Read more
Published 5 months ago by Issa
funny book but too much slang
This is a nice book and it is also funny but for me there is too much slang and Americanisms. English is not my mother language and even if speak good English the book is too... Read more
Published 8 months ago by Monia
This is THE book
This is the book everyone should read, it has lots of tricks that we don't learn from mum and dad.
We sometimes forget to make the other person special, sometimes we... Read more
We sometimes forget to make the other person special, sometimes we... Read more
Published 9 months ago by Pandora
Pick up a Carnegie instead
This book contained a lot of trite pep-talk advice that's cringe worthy. The author also kept on mentioning that she's "improving" what Dale Carnegie wrote in his best-seller How... Read more
Published 10 months ago by Maria Gaston
TOTAL RUBBISH
The worst self-help book I've ever had the misfortune to buy. I don't say that lightly.
In fact it's so vacuous you'll probably feel you're being insulted. Read more
In fact it's so vacuous you'll probably feel you're being insulted. Read more
Published 11 months ago by Denat
Some decent tips, but mainly filler/waffle.
'Subtle ways to compensate for your inferiority complex whilst simultaneously not looking like a desperate social climber' would be a more apt title for this book. Read more
Published 11 months ago by Tom, Cornwall, UK
WARNING: Manipulative - needs to be taken with a BIG dose of salt
Strange thing with books is the effect you have when you go to talk to someone after reading one. Read a book about the history of Stalinism and you will probably feel quite bleak. Read more
Published 12 months ago by Magic Lemur
Rubbish & insincere - I would hate to meet this author!
I gave this book 1 star because there was no option to give is a zero star rating. This is one of the worst books I have read in a long time. Read more
Published 17 months ago by Techno Dood
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